"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i'm not familiar with that situation ...

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hey people,

today a friend of mine since back when i was a kid, came to visite me with her parents.

i didnt see her for 4 year.

so we talked, we laugh and she invited me to a W-E with some friends of her (5 chicks for 3 guys, including me) on a hotel.

so until now it sounds great, but (always a but ...), she juste called me and told me she's in love with me, and every single time she's seeing me (the last 5 years) it's like love at the first site.

convo time:

she:hey, i need to tell you something, but i hope you'll be coool about it.

me: ohoh .... your pragnent ??????

she: lol you're crazy.
every time i seee you i'm falling in love again and again, like love at the first site, but im not your type and you're looking to have fun ....

me: lets say im not looking for fun, just enjoying life and want it to stay that way, so i dont want something serious.

she: you're crazy, listen if we are gonna be this WE together i want to have fun and talk to you, but that's it

me: listen, i done want you to make idea or something, and i dont know if you can handle all the WE without jumping at me ... more seriousely, i dont want you tu have false idea or hopes.
so im hesitating if should i come or not !

she: you're funny, i have a bf for 1 moth and its good, i just wanted to know if youll be ok to build something with me ... but we staying friend and i like you the way you are i dont want to change it, i know i can count on you, and i dont want to distroy our friendship
you're simple - you are yourself, and you dont take things to serious
and you are nice. having a friend like you is great !

me: cool, case close.
i got to go, have a great night


so my question to you guys, what should i do ? go there to meet here friends? not going there ?
and if im going, how should i handle it, knowing she's in love with me, and i probably (yeah i like women ... like everyone else here) going to djing her female friends ???
do i need to not give a **** about her ?
please enlight me ....

BTW, i can't just stop our friendship like that, her parents are close friend with mine so i'm gonna see her a lot from now on, i know her family her friends (common) so if i just stop our friendship it's just gonna be suck since i can meet her everytime i'm out and she to with my friends

Thx guys

oh almost forgot, i need to give an answer to the hotel, tommorow morning (its 10:30pm here)
 

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Dont judge a woman on what she says, only judge her on her actions.

so here is my take on your ordeal.

Well she said she has a bf for the past month. (flag)

she just wants to talk and hang out. she wants you to be a her male girlfriend. (flag)

she wants to build something. build what? another friendship on top of the friendship you have already?

I think this girl is full of crap. and so what if her family is friends with yours. you dont have any obligations to this chick.

I suggest to keep at arms length and meet other women. If you believe in what she is saying then thats cool. but dont expect anything different from her.

If you do want to keep her as friends ask her about other chicks you are seeing. ask her opinion. women get so jealous once you start talking about how hot other chicks are. haha.

If you do a group thing, introduce her to the current girls you are banging. ha that will get her all emotional. maybe not though. since she just wants to keep your relationship as friends.
 

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thx for your answer
i always have a problem with that 'dont judge her by her sayin but judge her by her action' i dont know if her action is lagitimate or not (im not talking about her aspecially just in general)
can you tell me when i should and when i shouldnt judge her action ?

see i know shes full of crap and i have no obligation toward her but its just a close friend i cant just blow her off because shes in love with me
ans your suggestion about making her jalouse i dont know how much itll be effective since a jaliuse women is a more attracted women
so the more i talk about other chicks im banging the more shes gonna be jalouse and attracted to me plus i dont talk aboit my sex life or telling people that a chick is my sex friend, its always between the chick god and i ! :p

no she said she wanted to know if we can build somethong (exclusive love relatioshionship)

so what should i do this WE ?
 

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TheMale said:
can you tell me when i should and when i shouldnt judge her action ?
It's quite simple.

IGNORE every single word she says. believe it to be lies.

PAY ATTENTION to what she DOES.


Example from a past fling of mine:

ME: Hey lets go to my place tonight after dinner.

HER: HUH? No, we're not doing that anymore (sex)

ME: OK, see you later

5 hrs and a few drinks later we're going at it on my bed.

this went on for months until I got tired of her and kicked her to the curb.

Get it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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thx for the precision pdx

mike: if you want i have more :p

so guys back to my questions, what should i do ?
 

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She says she is in love... Then make her prove it to you.
I would say dont go. Make her wonder where were you and/or why didnt you go... If she really loves you... Challenge
 

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PDX: read it in the pook's bible, but it's not always applicable.
let's say she's late because she missed her bus (i'm not waiting for someone more than 5minutes but just for the example), you say you need to judge her action by saying she could take the bus earlier if she knew she's going to miss it.
yeah that's a great point but what if the bus was full and he didn't stop on that station because he couldn't take more people ?

see i grew up in the state of mind that you always need to judge people for their advantage, maybe there's something you don't know about them, maybe something you can't think about, but they did good.
so i think the problem for me, coming from here, but i never no if i'm doing good or not ?


i see your point, love's orphan.

but in one hand i'm not attracted to her, in the other hand, i'm not a jerk, i always make it obvious when i'm with a chick from what i want (serious, ONS, FF etc,)

but yeah i think i'm not gonna go, like you advise me love's orphan, and if she's asking me i'll just say : 'i couldent make it, some things to do.' :)

anyone else have something to add ???
 
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