Im not an AFC so what gives?

[captain55]

I find myself developing feelings for women way too quickly. Some who I don't even get into relationships with. Some who I only **** one time. You figure this would only be an AFC problem but its not in my case. I have multiple good looking women to chose from in my life. This usually happens with a chick thats hard for me to obtain. NEVER a chick I get into a relationship with.

So...its usually a new oneitus every few months.Sometimes after just a few dates Ill already be picturing myself having a life with the woman and marrying her. Ill put on some music and imagine my life with her, her on my motorcycle, having kids with her, taking vacations with her etc.

Im just trying to determine if Im a full blown narcissist/serial dater/hopeless romantic or if this is somewhat normal? are there any other guys here that are not AFC who get emotionally invested with women way too quickly?

 

[Mr_Maximus]

I find myself developing feelings for women way too quickly. Some who I don't even get into relationships with. Some who I only **** one time. You figure this would only be an AFC problem but its not in my case. I have multiple good looking women to chose from in my life. This usually happens with a chick thats hard for me to obtain. NEVER a chick I get into a relationship with.

So...its usually a new oneitus every few months.Sometimes after just a few dates Ill already be picturing myself having a life with the woman and marrying her. Ill put on some music and imagine my life with her, her on my motorcycle, having kids with her, taking vacations with her etc.

Im just trying to determine if Im a full blown narcissist/serial dater/hopeless romantic or if this is somewhat normal? are there any other guys here that are not AFC who get emotionally invested with women way too quickly?

If it is with a women that is harder to obtain then your subconscious may be assigning more value to her. Your higher self may also be trying to tell you that she is a keeper.

 

[skinnyguy]

I find myself developing feelings for women way too quickly. Some who I don't even get into relationships with. Some who I only **** one time. You figure this would only be an AFC problem but its not in my case. I have multiple good looking women to chose from in my life. This usually happens with a chick thats hard for me to obtain. NEVER a chick I get into a relationship with.

So...its usually a new oneitus every few months.Sometimes after just a few dates Ill already be picturing myself having a life with the woman and marrying her. Ill put on some music and imagine my life with her, her on my motorcycle, having kids with her, taking vacations with her etc.

Im just trying to determine if Im a full blown narcissist/serial dater/hopeless romantic or if this is somewhat normal? are there any other guys here that are not AFC who get emotionally invested with women way too quickly?

You keep insisting that you're this highly masculine alpha, but your posts say otherwise

 

[Poon King]

Any time you have "oneitis" its rooted in ignorance.

You basically don't know enough about the woman and are focusing only on her perceived "good qualities".. many of which she is faking for her own benefit.

There is a reason women change in relationships over time. Its not because you as a man did something "wrong".. its because the mask comes off when a woman gets comfortable. But most men have their heads too far up their asses to grasp the fact that a woman's behavior has little to do with him and more to do with HER.

 

[WanderingMan]

But most men have their heads too far up their asses to grasp the fact that a woman's behavior has little to do with him and more to do with HER.

I hear this a lot, and to me, it comes across as a victim mentality. Isn't the man supposed to lead?

 

[jurry]

Grass is always greener syndrome. Pretty common sickness, modern man lives in a state of continual dissatisfaction. He must always get more, better, what he doesnt yet have, etc.

To stay distracted and focused on some external goal prevents him from having to confront the insanity within

 

[Poon King]

I hear this a lot, and to me, it comes across as a victim mentality. Isn't the man supposed to lead?

The only thing a man is "supposed to do" is whatever the f*ck he wants. But more specifically.. whatever benefits him.

The idiotic trap men always fall into is following "rules". Its almost like most men are born to be slaves and need a master. Do you see women following rules? NOPE.. they are making the rules for men to follow while following no rules themselves.

Women don't need "structure" in their own behavior. They only need structure in the behavior of men.. so that men can continue to serve them and they can continue to be FREE. :crackup:

Wake up men.

 

[Crossbow]

The only thing a man is "supposed to do" is whatever the f*ck he wants. But more specifically.. whatever benefits him.

The idiotic trap men always fall into is following "rules". Its almost like most men are born to be slaves and need a master. Do you see women following rules? NOPE.. they are making the rules for men to follow while following no rules themselves.

Women don't need "structure" in their own behavior. They only need structure in the behavior of men.. so that men can continue to serve them and they can continue to be FREE. :crackup:

Wake up men.

Everyone does whatever they want. You aren't saying anything new. You seem angry because you followed the "rules" and when that didn't work you pretended to not follow the rules then failed and pretended to "go your own way" which is nowhere but logging online looking to recruit impressionable men to join you in constantly ranting as an excuse for not moving ahead in life and being unable to use some much needed self-reflection and improvement.

Nature will move on and leave you behind along with the rest of your ilk.

 

[Yewki]

So...its usually a new oneitus every few months.Sometimes after just a few dates Ill already be picturing myself having a life with the woman and marrying her. Ill put on some music and imagine my life with her, her on my motorcycle, having kids with her, taking vacations with her etc.

Im just trying to determine if Im a full blown narcissist/serial dater/hopeless romantic or if this is somewhat normal? are there any other guys here that are not AFC who get emotionally invested with women way too quickly?

You overly value and prioritize women because you're trying to fill a void in your life. This isn't a neg or an insult, everyone does this behavior... but to varying degrees and in different ways. In your case it's the grand illusion of love and finding "the one." If you have a loving family and the perfect wife beside you on your motorcycle, everything will be OK. Or at least that's how your particular fairytale goes.

The best treatment for this, aside from just getting older and wiser, is to occupy your time developing new interests and hobbies. Realize there is no single key to your happiness. Use the time you spend obsessing about one particular key to instead fill a chainring of keys.

 

[Infern0]

In your case captain it's because you ARE an AFC.

Your in denial but you make threads where you list your interactions in which you make AFC mistakes over and over again, dont listen to the advice you are given, then make threads asking if you are too alpha which is why you get rejected.

You are either unbelievably ignorant, suffering from a serious mental illness or trolling.