"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm new to this town and need advice please

Dhoulmagus

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I moved 1000 miles away from my state to take my first job out of college. I stick out like sore thumb because of my accent and I am African American. There's Africans here, but they don't look or act like me lol. I went to bars with my boss last night, but he is married so I know this won't be an every weekend type of ordeal. Tinder isn't that great here, but I'm still using it. Anyways, were any of yall in my situation and what do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Asmodeus

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A foreign country? American men are very highly valued by women in foreign countries... At least that has been my experience.
Or is this in some state? Where is this? Need more information to provide any possible advice...
The best advice is to try to find social circles to join in and to ever expand those social circles. Just meet people there, tell them you are new and that you are looking to meet new people and make new friends, should work. You will keep expanding your circles, become more familiar with the area, know hot spots and places to go, even find friends to join you.
 

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I live in the North Dakota. I noted that I'm the only african american in the town aside from Somalis lol.
 

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North Dakota is way out there. My only suggestion is to live near a big college. It's the only guarantee for a constant stream of women. If you live in the suburbs, you'll have a much tougher time.
 
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