I'm nervous but I'm finally going to approach her...

[Viper]

I don't know what the hell I'm doing, but I think I'm finally going to approach "Her" tommorow. Who is she? Samantha, the popular senior girl, who's apart of the dancing team of our marching band, I'm a little nervous because I see this chick around alot of "Jocks" and "Popular Guys", also she always seems to avoid eye contact with me when I see her in lunch or the hallway, outside of band I see her flirting alot too. I no longer care what "thought of me" or "what she thinks of me" I'm just going to approach her. Being that she's popular and I'm a loser, it's going to suck big time, but I gotta do this sometime.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

you are 15? and she's how old? well good luck... not that you need it................ have fun... i guess people would like to hear:

YOU CAN DO IT!

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by MikeS
you are 15? and she's how old? well good luck... not that you need it................ have fun... i guess people would like to hear:

YOU CAN DO IT!

Thanks for the encouragement. I got alot of pressure on my hands though, if I talk to her, there's a good chance I'll have to talk to her friends too, since she probably won't be alone. Got any tips on approaching groups?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

Maybe you could find a time when she's alone to talk to her/aproach her.

Then after you met her, she can intro you to her friends.



First, approach her alone.

Second, get to know her, of course

Third, If all goes well, make a time after school to go to her locker, make sure she says its okay.

Since she NOW knows about you going to her locker, she'll be thinking maybe "A guy is coming to my locker, and my friends will be here, how can *I* NOT feel awkward. I KNOW! I'LL INTRODUCE THEM, so they can know each other!"

Fourth, Go to her locker after school, and meet new "popular people", and have a better chance with your girl!


Tell me what you think, k

 

[08aisaac]

Well approaching girls is good. I approach any girl that looks like she would be fun to talk to.

And I don't care if she is a Senior.

Just be calm. Usually I don't plan out my approaches, just do what seems natural, and go for it.

The best way to approach a group, is with your own group of popular friends.

Despite what people say, you do not need to madly approach every girl you see.

While you might do this, I am sure there are tons, and it's best if they kind of don't already know you.

But once you start getting it on with some of the less popular, more fun girls, that are like HB7's and HB8's then you can go for the more popular, less fun HB9's and HB10's.

You have to trust me. Start small. Like you see girls that aren't too popular, but they are really fun.

They are just shy.

But like you might wait a while, till you are really good at approaches, before you approach the really HB10's.

Trust me, there is no reason you should set your self up for rejection. If you do, then you have the wrong mindset.

First, there is no such thing as a girl rejecting you. You reject yourself.

But if you really want to talk to this chick, you should try and have a reason.

I know I might be convincing you to not approach her, but that is only because there are better ways to go about it.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

plus,

at my school... popular girls KNOW they are stereotyped as b*tches... so they try NOT to be one... so if you talk to them.. they will probably be very nice, and welcoming.

but of course girls in highschool are b*tches and talk behind people's backs

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by MikeS
plus,

at my school... popular girls KNOW they are stereotyped as b*tches... so they try NOT to be one... so if you talk to them.. they will probably be very nice, and welcoming.

but of course girls in highschool are b*tches and talk behind people's backs

C+F should be easy here, then.
Since popular girls think there prissy and all that, it shouldn't be hard to neg hit on them.

 

[Viper]

Well approaching girls is good. I approach any girl that looks like she would be fun to talk to.

And I don't care if she is a Senior.

Just be calm. Usually I don't plan out my approaches, just do what seems natural, and go for it.

The best way to approach a group, is with your own group of popular friends.

Despite what people say, you do not need to madly approach every girl you see.

While you might do this, I am sure there are tons, and it's best if they kind of don't already know you.

But once you start getting it on with some of the less popular, more fun girls, that are like HB7's and HB8's then you can go for the more popular, less fun HB9's and HB10's.

You have to trust me. Start small. Like you see girls that aren't too popular, but they are really fun.

They are just shy.

But like you might wait a while, till you are really good at approaches, before you approach the really HB10's.

Trust me, there is no reason you should set your self up for rejection. If you do, then you have the wrong mindset.

First, there is no such thing as a girl rejecting you. You reject yourself.

But if you really want to talk to this chick, you should try and have a reason.

I know I might be convincing you to not approach her, but that is only because there are better ways to go about it.

Hey, as long as I approach a girl. There's even this hot chick named Katie whose a freshmen, but could easily be mistaken for a upper classman. This is the approach I'm going to use:

Me: Hey, do I know you?
Katie: No.
Me: Well, I think we should get to know eachother better.
Me: What's your name?
Katie: Katie.
Me: Oh...
[Pause]
Me: Isn't the point where you ask my name?
Katie: Oh, yeah. What's your name?
Me: Sorry, chick, I'm not that easy. Although if you play your cards right with me, I just might tell you.

.

 

[TheNewGuy]

Originally posted by Viper
Hey, as long as I approach a girl. There's even this hot chick named Katie whose a freshmen, but could easily be mistaken for a upper classman. This is the approach I'm going to use:

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You gotta stop planning things out like that, let it flow naturally. Girls can pick up real easy when you're being fake, they definetly CAN pick up when your reading lines like a script.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by TheNewGuy
You gotta stop planning things out like that, let it flow naturally. Girls can pick up real easy when you're being fake, they definetly CAN pick up when your reading lines like a script.

What can I say? When you suck at approaches like me, it actually helps. I'm no Don Juan, so girls who I approach are usually bored when I use a natural approach.

 

[oakraiderz2]

No offense, but if shes so popular i dunno how much of a chance there is even if you were the COOLEST sophmore. Im not trying to be negative, just realistic.

 

[Smooth Player 056]

Just do it man...weather it turns out good, or bad....doesnt matter, your one step closer to becoming a great dj

Smooth Player

 

[familyguyfan]

Originally posted by TheNewGuy
You gotta stop planning things out like that, let it flow naturally. Girls can pick up real easy when you're being fake, they definetly CAN pick up when your reading lines like a script.

Exactly. In addition to that drawback, planning things out also has the drawback of not knowing what to say once your planned words have been said. Also, life has a funny way of usually not going about as you plan it. Odds are, she won't always have the same responses you expect she may have. Then, when the conversation takes an unexpected turn, you won't know what the hell to say because all you're thinking about is saying what you planned. Just go talk to her like you would talk to a friend.

And for the thing you planned, odds are she would just ask for your name after she said hers.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by familyguyfan
Exactly. In addition to that drawback, planning things out also has the drawback of not knowing what to say once your planned words have been said. Also, life has a funny way of usually not going about as you plan it. Odds are, she won't always have the same responses you expect she may have. Then, when the conversation takes an unexpected turn, you won't know what the hell to say because all you're thinking about is saying what you planned. Just go talk to her like you would talk to a friend.

And for the thing you planned, odds are she would just ask for your name after she said hers.

Like I said I'm no Don Juan, so is actually helps me if I have a preset conversation. Even if I didn't plan anything, I would eventually get stuck in the conversation anyway.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

Originally posted by MikeS
Maybe you could find a time when she's alone to talk to her/aproach her.

Then after you met her, she can intro you to her friends.



First, approach her alone.

Second, get to know her, of course

Third, If all goes well, make a time after school to go to her locker, make sure she says its okay.

Since she NOW knows about you going to her locker, she'll be thinking maybe "A guy is coming to my locker, and my friends will be here, how can *I* NOT feel awkward. I KNOW! I'LL INTRODUCE THEM, so they can know each other!"

Fourth, Go to her locker after school, and meet new "popular people", and have a better chance with your girl!


Tell me what you think, k

gahh.. just try this.... its not planning on what to say.. its more like... "if this happens... do this"

 

[Holland]

Things never go exactly the way you want them to. Expect that. If you're planning out an entire conversation what you want both people to say it's not going to happen. Just be relaxed and tune in on whatever is the subject. If she rejects you, don't make it a big deal, just make fun of her, at whatever she rejects you with and then immediatly walk away.

P.s. you should be glad things are never going to be exactly the way you want them too cause that would be extremely boring in the long run.

 

[anile8]

DONT EVER LET ME HEAR U SAY THAT AGAIN
YOUR NOT A LOSER