I'm moved into college but my roomate is an *******

[Brighty]

So I just got moved into college and I'm loving it. I share a room with two other kids and I get along with one of them, but I can't stand the other guy. The guy got in a fire when he was a kid and his face is pretty ****ed up, like seriously hideous, so I guess that explains why he's an *******. I don't know, I mean he has a reason to be the way he is, but that doesn't make him any more enjoyable to live with.

Let me paint the picture for you of what this guy is like:

- When we're watching Family Guy and a joke happens he'll laugh for 15 seconds straight and then afterward explain what happened in the joke (e.g. DAMN HE JUST WALKED ALL OVER THE COUCH HAHA)

- He cranks his music in his headphones so that I can hear them just fine across the room, so I have to listen to whatever song he's listening to. He also sings along to the music.

- He REEKS. I seriously do not think that this guy takes a shower. Whenever I walk into the room I get nauseous. It's painful. You think I'm kidding, but the smell is getting bad.

- He, without fail, wakes up at 6:30am every single day, climbs down from his bunk, and five minutes later goes back to sleep, but not before waking everyone up.

- He has no social skills whatsoever and he's an *******, even the RA's hate him.



Enough is enough, I can't spend the semester with him. How do I do this? Do I request a transfer out or do me and my roommate band together and kick him out? How have you guys handled the situation?

 

[Sir_Turtle]

Transfer. and unless your scholorship money is paying for a dorm nearby apartments are almost always cheaper

 

[Cure]

Talk to him mate.

If like oyu say, he has personal issues which is sounds may well be influenced by his facial injury, then he is probably a nice guy underneath.

Before you go trying to move rooms or get him chucked out/gang up on him, just sit him down a have a chat. Mention the issues. Ask him to turn his music down when you are in the room, explain that as well as damaging his hearing, its also distracting for you. Similarly with the waking you up in the morning, explain its an issue and that you would like him to stop. Same goes for the BO issue.

The problems you have mentioned can hopefully be delt with by sitting down and having a non-confrontational friendly conversation with the guy. Its quite possible he isnt even aware of the problem. So just talk to the guy, if you do your best and he still wont change, then you can consider taking the problems up with the people who can change things round.

good luck sorting it, remember hes human too

Cure.

 

[Zebedee]

Judging by what you have said im sure it wont take long for the other two room mates to get pissed off with him.

 

[Julian]

blanket party

 

[Mr_rogers]

Sounds like he's earned the right to be a little messed up what with the whole being burned thing, though he could be paralyzed and I still wouldn't put up with him stinking the place up.

Yeah, just talk to the guy, preferably man to man rather than two against one or whatever. It's important that he doesn't feel he's being attacked and that you two are just having a conversation. A lot of people with low self-esteem take any sort of criticism very personally, so keep it light!

 

[JCballin88]

I rolled over almost every night last year to seeing one of my roommates jacking off to porn all night on his 23" monitor. He never left the room except for class (then he'd come straight back as if being outdoors was killing him rapidly) Never even used headphones for anything he did on his computer during the day. So we were all subjected to listening to whatever he wanted while he blared it on his sound system. We repeatedly talked to him about his poor habits but he never adjusted.

The point is, until you can make friends and plan who you are actually going to live with, chances are someone is going to get under your skin early and often. You just have to make the choice of being an ***hole back, or do what I did and just stay busy enough that you don't even end up spending a lot of time in your room anyway.

 

[Leporello]

Some people adapt to disfigurement better than others. I remember in college there was a guy who had some kind of brain condition which made his right arm useless; people would try to be nice to him until he revealed himself as a total a$$ who would mock people who had less money than him. There's really not much you can do about that.

another thing is: college can show how unfit some people are to take care of themselves. If their parents aren't around them all the time to make sure they're fed, washed and dressed they won't be able to do it for themselves.

 

[spesmilitis]

****ing TALK to him about whatever annoys you. Geez

 

[JCballin88]

another thing is: college can show how unfit some people are to take care of themselves. If their parents aren't around them all the time to make sure they're fed, washed and dressed they won't be able to do it for themselves.

So true haha.

 

[kraytkiller]

First step: Calm talk, try to get him to change his habits
Second step: Aggressive confrontation. Not like fighting, but tell him to either change his habits or your going to do your best to do something about it
Third step: Try and form an alliance with your roommate and see if you can get him booted out of the dorm?
Fourth step: Move out to somewhere better
Does your other roommate even care?

 

[Prodigy746]

i say try and talk to him first.... if that doesnt work that try to move out or have him kicked out....

 

[Da Realist]

Just move. Why talk when you can just change rooms? You saying something to him isn't going to change him and will probably just move him deeper into his *******-ish ways. Maybe talk to him later when he's wondering why people don't like him, but get out before then. I've had bad roommates and it's best to just leave asap.