I'm losing my mind, i'm like a girl right now, WHO GOT ADVICE???

[DJDamage]

she told me she loves me and that I'm her favorite human-beeing on earth but her love for me is diffrent than it was and it's not the kind of love she needs in order to be able to have a relationship with me.

When woman use words like "its different" and "not that kind of love" its a hint that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.

Not all is lost. Women tend to think with their emotions. What you need to do is slowly phase her out of your life and start dating other women. If she still loves you then it will rear its ugly head when she realises that there is a good chance you will leave her for good in favour of another woman. If she fails to step up to the plate then know its time to move on (seeing other women will actually help you as well since you will rediscover what great sex is all about and maybe you wouldn't really want her back.)

DjDamage

 

[animal crackers]

Been there man...Pretty much all the same things you are going through. You're best bet is just move on. Here's a list of all the things helped me, some that I waited way to long to start.

-Find other girls (as soon as possible)
-Cut contact with her (It will make you feel miserable every time you talk to her)
-Realize that you probably got needy/turned into a chump/became dependent on her somewhere down the line, and take it as a learning experience.
-Spend more time with friends/less time alone thinking.
-Stop thinking about sleeping with her again. LOL I did this SAME thing. It's a catch 22 because she might sleep with you again, but only once you've totally moved on, and if you still have a 'goal' of sleeping with her 1 last time you never move on. It's part of the 'bargaining' phase with yourself. You think "well she won't get back with her, but maybe I can be intimate with her one last time" You are HURTING YOURSELF by not moving on COMPLETELY. Trust me...
-Think about all the boring times when you were together and how at those times you wished you weren't 'tied down.'

Rejoice! You are now free to play the game again, and what a fun game it is.

 

[Swagger]

thanks for the advice dudes. you're right. i just gotta stop being dependent to her.

I gotta move on. that's the only chance to possibly get her back. and if i don't get her back, at least I've moved on.

i'll call this girl up who i number-closed last night. she's cute. but probably just a 6.5 or 7.
but that's allright with starters. a hb10 would be toooo much work right now, lol

thanks

 

[thederekeffect1]

I gotta move on. that's the only chance to possibly get her back.

You're not getting her back. Period.

 

[animal crackers]

thanks for the advice dudes. you're right. i just gotta stop being dependent to her.

I gotta move on. that's the only chance to possibly get her back. and if i don't get her back, at least I've moved on.



thanks

LOL I know it's easier to think like that. Don't. Make 'get her back' not part of your vocabulary.

 

[Jariel]

I understand how this must hurt and you shouldn't feel like any less of a man for that. But I've been reading the advice here and it's good. What you want is your old relationship back, when it was exciting and there was sexual attraction. Even if you got her back, you'd probably rediscover all the things that were wrong.

Everything changes and you have to stop clinging and let go. Any attempt to get her back will seem like desperation tactics. It will drive her further away and keep you trapped in your depression.

Sorry, but that is the truth. We've all been there and that's why we give you this advice.

Try looking at all the positives now: you're single and you have more freedom. You have more time to do things you didn't get to do before, you can have days where you chill out and play computer games or nights you can socialise with friends and go on the pull. What's more, you get to meet and date other women now and have the possibility of sex. There are a lot of benefits facing you!

 

[Swagger]

Every single word of your advice is right. i'd probably give exactly the same advice to a friend of mine in that situation.

but when it's you, emotions mess up your thinking and acting.

thanks again.

 

[blueangel83]

Set up a meeting with her and tell her exactly how you feel and the reason why you broke up with her. Don't hold back, even if it makes you cry.

Open up to her and ask her to do the same.

Good luck!

-Maria

 

[DJDamage]

Set up a meeting with her and tell her exactly how you feel and the reason why you broke up with her. Don't hold back, even if it makes you cry.

and then the two of you can run down to the store buy some maxi-pads, do your nails and talk about cramps and chocolate.

 

[Swagger]

i already set up a meeting. i told her how i feel. she told me her love has changed. it makes no sense. i keep my pride though. i don't need to break down in front of her. i don't want her sympathy. i want her to love me. that's not gonna happen, so i gotta let go.

but thanks for trying to help.