"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm losing interest in my girlfriend

Swampcamel

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ALL relationships dry up and get old. After you've experienced everything you can experience together, boredom will set in, and with that frustration. If you choose frustration to protect your ego, you will be a slave, you will never be free.

Why are you worried? Because you think you'll be alone, and if you're alone, you think something is wrong with you, that people don't like you and that's why you're alone. Nothing will be wrong with you. In fact, you'll be better, you'll be more desirable because you won't be tied down and you won't be frustrated.

How many people in their 40s who've been married for 20 years don't seem totally bored and sexless if not completely miserable? How often do they fight? And what over? Stupid, pointless sh'it, because they're totally frustrated and feel like they can't do anything about the real problem, which is to say they feel like they can't get through late life with dignity if they don't have some woman holding down their fort for them.

Does that really sound better? Social acceptance from fellow misery-riddled, career-trapped coworkers, or total freedom? The whole thing's based on some promise, some illusion that doesn't exist.

You'll always find more people who want your company so long as you continue to accept and love yourself and your life. That's what attracts people, any age. Half the dudes on this forum are over 30. There's plenty of silver foxes out there in their early 50s still having a good time. And they have way more energy and love for life than the one's saddled in for the long haul.

nuff said.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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