I'm leaving town and want to make amends

[whatshouldido]

OK so I broke up with my GF of four months. I admit I was an AFC ******* and she got sick of it. My situation couldn't be anymore similiar to the "Is she having doubts or is she comfortable" thread. I haven't seen her in two weeks and haven't spoken to her in one. On short notice, I am leaving town to go back to my hometown on a mandatory transfer with work. She does not know this. All I want at this point is to leave town on better terms then where we left it. I cared alot for this girl. What should I do? I don't want to just blow town at this point without attempting to contact her.

 

[Myrrdin]

simply leave. She will probably go berserk when she finds out and maybe follow you ). Don't tell her anything!!!

 

[f283000]

So you're asking us if it's ok to hand her your balls and beg her for forgiveness and make yourself look bad right? Cause we all know this is what you plan on doing even though you may not admit it cause you still got feelings for her.

Fight the urge and be a man. You got places to see people to meet. Think forward not backwards. You broke up with her so be a man and follow through and delete her from your life and move forward.

Trust me on this your inner afc might feel bad inside but don't. Females now a days are on top of the world and they got plenty of pursuers even the ugly ones. Erase the image of your mind that you probably have of her crying her eyes out cause of you. Most likely she doesn't give a sh*t anymore and was ready to move on the moment she dumped your a$$. It's us men that act like wimps and can't accept it and move on. Women take it more like a man than we do in these situations!

 

[whatshouldido]

I agree with you guys but right now its about making me feel better. I dont have a life in that city anymore anyways, I already gave her my balls which is why things went sour, I know that. But it would feel greak to see her before I drive away.

I'm an AFC, got it.

I just want to do something.

 

[Myrrdin]

No it won't feel great! Just do a 180 and get the hell out of that town. It's a new beginning! I really envy you

 

[whatshouldido]

Honestly I think if I send a Happy Thanksgiving txt and don't even get one back I'd be spinning my wheels anyway.

 

[dry]

before i moved to brazil and i was a total afc I had a girl i rlly liked that I chased for 6months and I never ****d....when i was moving it just so happen to be my b-day and i just had to give it 1 more try. I got to her house and she has a 2yr old that opend the door, i went to her bed rolling kush and had popd ecstasy so was no stopping me and she woke up said "what you still doing here" I said "its my b-day and my last day here had to get some of you" she jumpd out of her bed and went to her bathroom her 2 year old was trying to tell me she is in the bathroom to get pretty i guess since she had a comb and eye liner on her hand pointing at the door haha and 5min later she came out sexy as hell. sat on the couch away from me then i sat close and I saw her give a sly grin like its on but she still playd hard to get. i started kissing her neck and still no. when i was ganna give up and my roll going away i layed back and she jumps on me with her phat ass and says she wants to ****. boy was that a mission. it was definitly worth going back, it would of been stuck in my head my whole life wondering "what if".
so if you do go see her again be shameless and keep pursing she will pace you i never met a girl that didnt pace but after you fuk her brains out she will thank you for not giving up.

 

[whatshouldido]

before i moved to brazil and i was a total afc I had a girl i rlly liked that I chased for 6months and I never ****d....when i was moving it just so happen to be my b-day and i just had to give it 1 more try. I got to her house and she has a 2yr old that opend the door, i went to her bed rolling kush and had popd ecstasy so was no stopping me and she woke up said "what you still doing here" I said "its my b-day and my last day here had to get some of you" she jumpd out of her bed and went to her bathroom her 2 year old was trying to tell me she is in the bathroom to get pretty i guess since she had a comb and eye liner on her hand pointing at the door haha and 5min later she came out sexy as hell. sat on the couch away from me then i sat close and I saw her give a sly grin like its on but she still playd hard to get. i started kissing her neck and still no. when i was ganna give up and my roll going away i layed back and she jumps on me with her phat ass and says she wants to ****. boy was that a mission. it was definitly worth going back, it would of been stuck in my head my whole life wondering "what if".
so if you do go see her again be shameless and keep pursing she will pace you i never met a girl that didnt pace but after you fuk her brains out she will thank you for not giving up.

Dude, I was with her for months, if we were good at something it was ****ing. I just don't want to leave knowing I ****ed up the best thing I had in a while. And honestly, I don't think I will find something better then that girl

 

[whatshouldido]

I really wish I could say I wont try.

 

[(JJ)]

i really wish you could find some testicles.

these guys are telling you exactly what you need to hear.

you didnt come here looking for an answer... you came here looking for people to tell you to run back to her and continue your image of being the "afc" that you described yourself as within the relationship.

"... and maybe, just maybe, we'll have mindblowing sex and get back together and get married!"

get outta here.

you're gonna do whatever you're gonna do no matter what i say.

but your statement "i dont think i will find something better than that girl" says more about your level of understanding than you telling us 500 times how well you understand stuff.

there's plenty of fish in the sea bro. the mindset that most girls are replaceable is the biggest thing you need to know. additionally, you COULDNT know if she's one of the ones that ISNT replaceable after a mere 4 months... i gotta go so thats all i'll say, but please, listen to the advice here. most of it's decent.

 

[whatshouldido]

i really wish you could find some testicles.

these guys are telling you exactly what you need to hear.

you didnt come here looking for an answer... you came here looking for people to tell you to run back to her and continue your image of being the "afc" that you described yourself as within the relationship.

"... and maybe, just maybe, we'll have mindblowing sex and get back together and get married!"

get outta here.

you're gonna do whatever you're gonna do no matter what i say.

but your statement "i dont think i will find something better than that girl" says more about your level of understanding than you telling us 500 times how well you understand stuff.

there's plenty of fish in the sea bro. the mindset that most girls are replaceable is the biggest thing you need to know. additionally, you COULDNT know if she's one of the ones that ISNT replaceable after a mere 4 months... i gotta go so thats all i'll say, but please, listen to the advice here. most of it's decent.

I don't want to get back together, or have great sex (i think) I just want to make amends a bit. We do have mutual friends.

 

[JLW]

You will gain nothing by making amends with her.

YOU BROKE UP. GET OVER IT.

 

[j0n24]

You should stop trying to help him...he is very thick headed and at the end of the day or when the day comes even if EVERYONE on this site says "DONT DO IT J4CKASS," He is still going to go crying to her begging for forgiveness.

Of course the entire time I was reading the thread I was trying to figure out what the heck he was trying to make amends about...he didnt leave on a bad note, he didnt do something stupid they just broke up so what the helll do you have to make amends for?

I hope even AFTER everyone tells you to just leave and live your damn life and even then still go and grovel to some nobody and how you mean nothing to her...please please post the convo here, because it would be a good reminder to all the other people on actually LISTENING to the people here and the advice.

 

[Kailex]

I love it when a guy walks in here and thinks life is a Hollywood movie.

Make amends for WHAT?
What do you hope to gain out of making amends with her?

She could probably give a rat's a$$ about making amends with you. If I read correctly, she broke up with you, and you want to make amends with her???

There is a reason that she broke up with you and "making amends" would prove to her even further that she made the right decision.

Please, just let this go.
Don't think for a second, that you talking to her and telling her that you are leaving is going to cue warm and fuzzy music and she'll suddenly ask you to stay and live with her happily ever after. And stop denying that that's not what you want. Secretly, in the back of your mind, you are hoping this will provoke a reaction from her, that maybe it will sting her a little by seeing you leave...

It doesn't work that way.
She'll think that you are just silly for even trying to make amends.

People and their sense of "closure"... I swear, there's no huger fallacy than closure.