"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm pathetic. Things were going so good two weeks ago and now everything has changed! I had a thing going with this tall, hot blonde and I got drunk and called her and I don't even know what I said. I haven't seen her since...maybe I will this weekend, but I find that it will be easier to live with myself if I choose to believe it didn't happen. I doubt she's attracted anymore anyways because I've been getting depressed when I've been drinking lately for some reason and ruin everyone's time.

I was doing great in school until I had four exams this week, all of which I BOMBED! Probably just ruined this semester's grades. Not to mention I have a crappy part-time job and my manager is a 27 year old water-buffalo with two annoying kids, and she started texting me Friday night about how I'm cute and she wants to go out with me. I'm planned to play like a twelve year old and ignore it but she kept throwing hints at work and ASKED ME OUT for Saturday. I said I think I'm busy but it doesn't matter, because she makes the schedule for next week, and she gave both of us the weekend nights off! She has kids and I don't want to get her fired but I don't look at that and say "That's for me".

I don't know where I went wrong or what I should do now. I feel like I'm going to explode. I want to blow up my computer! I need help!I'm pissed! sfjalfjsioduisritoutioasutoiasto!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women don't like pathetic guys. Get yourself under control and happy before anything else.
 
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Sounds like less of a woman problem, and more of an alcoholism problem.

Switch from liquor to beer, permanently.
 
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1) stop drinking and your being stupid problem stops
2) the woman at work... "sorry I don't date people I work with..."
3) school - how do you bomb 4 tests? Don't answer that...
 
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Stop blaming me for my problems guys. :)....feeling a little better tonight, despite not much changing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sin Verdad said:
Stop blaming me for my problems guys. :)....feeling a little better tonight, despite not much changing.
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Say what now? You just said right there, they are your problems, which means they are your responsibility.

Don't take that in a negative tone though. Problems are just building blocks, heal and learn. Make every step a good step. Now, clean up, lay off the booze, and find a better path.
 
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