I'm kinda sick of the dating model

[blueline]

Typically, what I do is obtain a number after chitchatting the girl at a bar, at class, or at a party. Then, the next day, I'll send out a text asking her to come out for a coffee. She'll probably reject the date request. Sometimes she'll come out, we'll go on a weird date where we stumble through a conversation as total strangers. Sometimes I charm her, we rarely make a real connection (never have on these dates). It's just this sexual thing. She either rejects the vibe or doesn't. 100% of the time sex actually goes down on the first date, what I did had nothing to do with it.

The girl has to be coming from desperate place (bipolar or fat [the LC isn't that high, but 4/8 ain't bad]) for this to work for me. The nice thing about the bipolar girls is that there is a strong urgency right from the beginning and you know they're not messing around. I'm sick of making out on a few dates and then nothing happening. The girls with high self-esteem do not let this go down. Like I honestly do not give a fuck about making out unless I have serious feelings and we've been dating for a while. The first 20 times, it was cool, but now I make out with a new girl almost every other week. Is there some way to screen out the ones that aren't gonna fuck on first date or in the near future? It's such a huge waste of time otherwise.

I'm also sick of the regimented, stereotyped structure to these things (talk for a couple hours on the first date about blah blah blah, give her a kiss good night, etc). Why can't it be more free form on the first date? I wanna start doing cooler things than coffee, that's a fucking dud of a date.

 

[blueline]

I think the biggest pitfall is that I'm 24 and don't have my own place yet. Parents really, really don't care if I bring random girls home, though. I've done it before. It's just I have this disgusting newfoundland dog that gets hair everywhere and nobody vacuums enough.

Like one girl literally rubbed her vagina on me while she had me pushed up against a car when we were making out. Should've I just made a move to finger her right there in a parking lot with her pants were on? I dunno how to get a sober girl to jump in my backseat. Big pitfall was that I didn't get a boner, otherwise I would've just put her hand on it. I couldn't go back to her place b/c her landlord said she can't have guests over (lies, lol). I just don't want that shit mess of a situation where there is an obv horny girl and nothing goes down. I also don't want to sit there and make-out with a girl and give her that gratification unless we're gonna fuck. I wanna send her off and tell her to gtfo if there is no ****ing, haha. If this upcoming date I'm going on this week doesn't look like it has promise for getting physical after 30 minutes, I'm just gonna make an excuse to ditch her and go hit on women at bars/parties. How do I figure this out quickly?

Like 99% of the time, if it's going down, the girl sets herself up. I just wanna meet those girls that are gonna set themselves up.

 

[blueline]

Another question, if it's obviously that bullshit where you're going to kiss her good night at the end of the first date, should you even do it? I feel like what you wanna do is build up the sexual tension and by kissing her like that, you just release all of it. You could be putting that to good use and actually use it to push the sex forward on the second date. I guess on the first date, this is OK, but on the second date if there is no likelihood of sex? Just send 'er home.

I used to use kissing as a test to see whether or not she likes me, but I've made out so many times to see it go nowhere. So, what's the point? When the girl is horny, it's just gonna be a transitory phase to fucking. I feel like kissing is the ultimate reward for an AW. It's meaningless.

Also, on this coming date, I'm gonna make sure and dress better than the girl and better than most of the people at the venue. Like literally look out of a fucking magazine, ahahaha. I'll even do a little bit of a pump workout before.

I also wish I was close enough with a really hot female friend (hotter than my date at least) that I could have her 'bump into me' on a date.

 

[blueline]

Like with one girl, I literally talked about getting tipsy and picking up women at clubs, fucking strangers, having sex in the subway, and doing a lot of drugs. SOMEHOW this got an otherwise extremely intelligent girl (perfect SAT score, graduating from UPenn this fall) to drop panties. Almost nearly the same conversational topics got another girl slightly older than and not nearly as attractive as the aforementioned one to tell me I'm arrogant and I only got a makeout from that date.

First girl thought I was just an ******* drunk upon first impression (I'm not, I only drink enough to loosen up on weekends) and it was that impression that carried me over to ****ing her at a random Sketchball's house in plain sight of another girl and my friend (they were supposedly asleep, but I asked the girl about it, and six months later, she still remembers this girl's moaning). Then a few months later, she starts to realize that I'm not an ******* drunk, but rather just a normal graduate student that kinda cares about her, and she refuses to **** me in a really fancy mansion that we're staying at for the night because "it's weird to **** in a stranger's house."

I am just confused. How does this work? How do I convey this side of me to my dates without necessarily manhandling them at parties/bars in a semi-drunk state before the date and talking about stories of picking up girls? This is the version of me that facilitates getting laid on the first date and in general most of the time.