I'm just not interested in people

[Huffman]

I was going to go out just now (alone) but then thought better of it.

I was going to sit at the bar, chat up some dudes (wings for the night) and girls and, if lucky, leave with a girl by the end of the night. But BOY I'm bored of the small talk! We'd talk about travel, get into a discussion about music that I've had 1000 times, whatever. Seriously, if the other party doesn't bring a really fascinating subject I'm bored to hell and back.

Actually most of the time another guy will hold the convo, and I will just chime in, flirt and steal the girl. That's pretty douch-ey, but I'm having a hard time holding a converstation (for hours!!) that I'm actually interested in. Acting cold (and looking good) does get me laid though... I've really perfected being aloof, but in truth I just stopped caring. That has completely taken the fun out of it. Some times I don't close, and then I'm honestly wondering if I chickened out or just didn't care enough.

Earlier this week I was on a date with a girl, she looked nice, had some cool hobbies and whatnot. I thought of calling her for another date, but it felt like a chore. Yeah, being social feels like such a chore and I'm tired.

But then again if I just let it go then, hell, I'm going to die lonely.
Sorry for ranting. I know some of you are going to comment.

 

[Huffman]

Wow that was whiney. I guess I'm just so dead from work that I don't feel like meeting anyone on friday.

 

[JohnChops]

this is how I feel, everyone just seems so god damn boring and they all talk about the same crap.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Dead from work? That might be your problem. Have you thought about creating a path to work you love, whereby your moods will be vastly improved by default, and your conversations more real and genuine? Just trying to be of service...


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[narcissist]

existential crisis.... You are losing meaning in your life because what you are doing isn't fulfilling you.


Find something more meaningful in life than superficial social interactions.

 

[Tictac]

"I'm just not interested in people"

Then don't be surprised when they find you boring and have no interest in you.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

this is how I feel, everyone just seems so god damn boring and they all talk about the same crap.

I feel like the OP, except not as aloof as he described. These interactions are boring me and I am tired of hearing about the same topics and stories. A lot of people are just flat boring and working themselves stiff on their 9-5 jobs isn't helping. Society is backwords.....all these chumps do is work and watch sports. I am going to start traveling more.....America is near full retard and nothing right now is fullfilling me

 

[LMFAO]

People are boring. What you need to to is take the lead of a conversation and make it less boring. That said yes there is a limit to that. Also a better social circle will help.

I've gone out on dates with girls who would bore the absolute fvck out of me. "I'm a 37 year old teacher, I just go out to the local shops and never to the city and watch TV at nights". Fvck that. Sometimes it's obvious straight away that there's no chemistry, the girls disqualify themselves because they are too boring for you, even for sex.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I feel like the OP, except not as aloof as he described. These interactions are boring me and I am tired of hearing about the same topics and stories. A lot of people are just flat boring and working themselves stiff on their 9-5 jobs isn't helping. Society is backwords.....all these chumps do is work and watch sports. I am going to start traveling more.....America is near full retard and nothing right now is fullfilling me

This. Cut back on expenses, ignore trends, save money, quit your day job and travel the world while monetizing doing something you'll love. You'll skip the dreaded midlife crisis, eradicate most of your fears, and atone for most of your regrets.

 

[Huffman]

People are boring. What you need to to is take the lead of a conversation and make it less boring. That said yes there is a limit to that. Also a better social circle will help.

You are perfectly right. I need to stop hanging out with boring people.
I guess the real solution is to spend some effort on making a bigger social circle of cool people, not to just accept what is handed to me.

I wrote this post after a whole week of hanging out with boring ppl and even going on a date with a boring girl. When I first saw her I thought she was exactly my type, we went on a longish date where I desperately tried to establish some deeper connection, but it didn't click. So I was a bit frustrated after that week

Feeling ok now but you are right about that social circle. I can be a bit boring - if we don't have any common interests - but I gotta spend some time to make more friends. Should pay off in the girls department as well. Most really great girls I've met through friends.

 

[Huffman]

"I'm just not interested in people"

Then don't be surprised when they find you boring and have no interest in you.

I'm not, I was actually wondering what to do about it. Valid point though.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Sometime in life, you gotta act and do things you don't want to do. Just suck it up and turn in an Al Pacino performance every time you have to. It pays off in the long term and you'll greatly benefit from doing so.