"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm ****ing sick of this

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I'm sitting here on a Friday night...unable to go out for various reasons beyond my control. That isn't the bad part. The bad part is that I'm sitting her hoping that this hot chick will call. Now, I'm not really doing any AFC stuff...she was interested in me, even told me to call so we could party. I called yesterday and she was out and busy, so she suggested that she call me today. I found out that there was a party (she's a 'partygirl'/slut btw) going on tonight and gave her a call to see if she was hitting it up, but no answer. That may have been borderline AFC. I'm going to counteract by not calling again until at least...Tuesday.

Anyways, that's just backstory. The main reason I'm posting this is to say that I'm sick of waiting for some girl to call me so we can make plans. In my experience, girls never call when they say they will/when you want them to. Only time I get calls from girls is when it's at complete random.

Anyways (again), I've decided that during this winter break I'm going for some change. I want to have enough numbers of interested girls that I can always have someone to make a date and get some action with. I never want to be hoping a girl calls back like she says she will.

And, btw, don't get me wrong. This particular girl is the type where I don't think it matters too much. If I can get her alone, and especially if I can get her while she's drunk at a party, then it makes no difference. The main obstacle in this case is that she's busy as hell, and...being one of the hot slutty partygirl types, has a short attention span it seems.

So, over this break...I'm buckling down. I've got all the physical things: great body, good height, and a good-looking face. I cvan get with some girls but...in no way a smooth-operating DJ. I need to change...I just hate this. I mean, I'm basically an average guy in terms of skill, but with my looks (and I say this as humbly as possible) I should be getting action at least a few times a week.

I need your help guys...this **** just sucks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ok...no need to worry make a couple of simple personality changes and change your way of thinking some....

-Try not to think to much about a typical female...i swear the ones that are really interested will make an effort to hang or whatever
-usually a girl will call me or text me to do something if she is really into me and those are the girls i can focus my attention on.

-The other ones who are tough to get in contact with are a bit tougher...dont call and not leave a message, i think it's kinda gay.....if you want have one pre-destened in case you lose your train of thought -"blahh blahh blahh, so il guess ill talk to you later, if your lucky, bye" click if she doesnt call for a while then try again a few days later, just realize when enough is enough
 

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I have to ask , why are you bothering with flakey chicks

another question is to why are you waiting for them to call you back ?

When you call them , whats your plan ?

Get the date nailed and all the details sorted on the 1st call

If she is truly busy and needs to arrange some things work etc and call you back then ask when do you think that i will hear back from you ? as i'm pretty busy myself at the moment and just trying to work my week out

if she doesnt cal back when she says say the next day say oh sorry i didnt hear back from you didnt think you were interested , ive already made plans for that night , how about next week ?

start qualifying her , you will be able to tell if she is serious or just seeing what else is better to be doing

Have back up girls
 

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Haha, she actually just called. Looks like it was her returning my call, though I dunno.

Um...yeah, whatever...this is probably as easy as it will get it. I'm not really even going to worry about this girl much.

But yeah, just in general I need to improve. I want to get to the point where a bad night would just be sex with a girl I'd done a few times before :cool: . And to the guy who mentioned me going for flakey girls...it seems to me just like some general thing that girls do. Like, for me, and probably most AFC...or just non-DJs, when I get a number, calling the girl is usually on my mind up until the day that I do. If a girl says she's going to call, then it's on my mind for quite some time. It seems to me that girls barely think about this crap at all, especially the ones that are used to attention (and I only go after hot ones so...yeah...all girls I go after are used to attention).

Anyways...I'll definitely be going out to about 1-3 parties next week, and probably some the week after, so I'll have ample opportunity to practice.
 
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