Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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im in a big dillema here help plz!

Stark

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ok heres the problem...

i ask this girl ive been talking to casually at lunch for like more than half the school year with a group of friends to prom last wednesday. she seemed to be excited but she told me she was going with like 5 of her girl friends.

then we go to prom and it didnt turn out all that hot. i asked her to dance once or twice but she said something like not now or she was talking with her friends. she then danced but with her girl friends. then she knew i was a little pissed so she danced with me for like 5 mins. then she went back to dancing with her girl friends.

she even gave me signs that it wasnt going to happen without actually telling me. she talks about this other guy and says he loves her i think is what i heard. then she started kind of fake flirting with the guy friend i had there that she is also friends with so i knew it was fake flirting. she like talked to him more and engaged in some kino with him but nothing sexual.
so ya she gave me signs that it wasnt going to happen.

here is where i mess up. 3 days later right before school ends i text her saying i wanted to meet her. i was going to ask her out. Don't ask i knew it wasnt a good idea. then my friend tells me that she told him that he was supposed to tell me to nicely say if i was going to ask her out, no. but at this point i already texted her and then shes like why what do you want to talk about? now that i knew it was 100% a bad idea to talk i said nm. she thought i said not much instead of never mind. so she said where do you want to meet. so i think she still actually wants to talk for some reason. i meet her and we just talk about random crap for lik 2 mins it was akward. i didnt ask her out. then she texts me after saying what did you rly want to talk about. then texts me before i reply saying i heard you were going to ask me out but i didnt know if you knew i have a boy friend. and then im like ya thats why i said nm not not much. i text her saying its all good if you want to talk about it on the phone its cool. the reason i was acting akward is a find out and thought you still wanted to meet when i said nm.

so at this point its really wierd. you would all probably tell me to just move on to a new girl but thats not my point here. i want to maintain the friend status now. and with her friends which are my friends too.. any advice?

the next day i go to the same spot with the group of friends and her and i pretend like nothing happened. we seem to talk normally but she didnt rly talk directly at me much at all.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Deviant_DeWilde

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Act friendly, make jokes (jokes are good to getting people friendly/comfortable), act as much as you were before as possible, you know, she could even be thinking the same thing as you...
 

Plec07

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Just be normal around her. If it feels awkward then stop stop it being awkward. Awkwardness is something created between two people, and it only takes one person to end it.
 
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