DJF or John said:
Man dude my bad, I didn't really read the post a lot.
Sexual flow, sexual power, sexual attitude, this is what makes the women fvck you. Women FVCK the guy with all the sexual power.
Gunwitch is an excellent teacher on this, read the Gunwitch method.
Here's the process I use
1. You obtain a chick's number
2. You PHONE SEX her FIRST
3. After PHONE SEX you fvck her
4. After fvcking her, you put her into 1 of 4 catergories
Girlfriend/Wifey
Close Friends with Benefits
Social Fvck Partner
Fvck Partner
Majority of the chicks you meet will be Fvck Partners and Close Friends with Benefits. Very, very, very few will be the girlfriend wifey catergory.
If you want me to explain these catergories more I can do so. But just from reading this you can see where a lot of guys mess up at, and wehre all their "problems" with women come from.
Number one- They don't pursue enough prospects.
Number two- They "date" and be in "relationships" with women that are just fvck partners or close friends with benefits.
Number three- They don't UP their sexual state, they don't even use it most of the time, and most of these guys don't even know what the hell sexual state is.
If you want me to go deeper I will. But as far as the "striking out" I'm willing to bet:
1. You got these chick's numbers
2. You called and "made a date."
3. Then when you called to pick them up, they were nowhere to be found.
They call it "a chick flaking on you." But in reality, chicks don't flake!
They fvck! And since most guys don't have their sexual power going, the chick spends her time with the guy that does!
See, guys keep taking chicks that are just "fvcks" and treating the encounter like a girlfriend/wifey encounter. That's why all these problems keep occurring.
Every guy wants a fvcking relationship so bad, they take a chick that they know deep down in their gut is not a suitable partner, and they date her. They want to be cool, be seen with a chick, have someone to go see Norbit with, etc.
All that shyt leads to problems. You want a relatonship? You want a girlfriend? Let me give you a bit of reality...in today's world...
90% of the women you encounter in America today WILL NOT BE GIRLFRIEND MATERIAL. Sorry. They are just like you and me, they want to nut, and nut with as many "guys" that carry this sexual power. They want to feel and live this sexual power.....
You want a relationship? You have to go on a "fvcking" warpath and marathon, and in the midst you find a chick that qualifies for a relationship. Then you contine on the fvcking warpath then you find another, and this continues.
Guys don't pursue enough women, at all! They are too scared to even fvcking approach one girl! Do you know how many chicks it takes to "fvck" before you finally find a chick that's relationship material? A good number of them buddy......and these guys wont' even "approach" a chick? They are making their lives very painful, because it's goiong to take them time to pursue enough approaches to get enough lays to get to the chicks that qualifies for a relationship. But if they won't approach, then shyt.....
I've read Gunwitch's embracing your masculinity thing a few times, and the more I read it, the more of it seems to sink in. Is there anything else by him that I should read?
I read something else from Pook the other night that I hadn't previously seen. It took me about an hour to get through it, but it was infinitely valuable. That guy's a genius.
I like your method overall, but is the phone sex part really necessary? I've only ever done that once with a girl (at her insistance), and I had a hard time not laughing. It just seems silly and pointless to me.
I think I've fallen into all three of those pitfalls you mentioned, though. I definitely have a history of not persuing enough options. It's like I get this guilty feeling like I'm not supposed to see anybody else even if I'm not officially exclusively with the girl I'm sleeping with. I actually drove one girl crazy last year keeping her on the backburner because I knew she liked me, and I would hang out with her several times a week. She'd invite me over, cook for me, buy me beer, and everything, but I wouldn't do anything non-platonic with her because I was sleeping with this other girl at the time. It wasn't until the other girl pissed me off that I fvcked around with the first girl.
I've definitely stopped getting into relationships with girls I know I have no future with, though. That's why I haven't had an official girlfriend in 4 years. But I will lightly date them. Even though I know I won't marry them, I still get into these light exclusive dating scenarios and date them until I get tired of them. I'm not sure if that's good or bad, but it seems to work for me.
Since reading Gunwitch, I have worked on trying to up my sexual state. But I'm still new at it, so it's obvious to everybody that I don't have a hold on it yet. I still look like I'm trying rather than being.
As far as the striking out, actually I think I kind of misworded some things last night in my drunken stupor. I didn't technically have any dates lined up. I just ran into a couple of my prospects all in the same place. Here's what actually happened.
Background on chick 1 (the fat girl): About two months ago, I had talked to her for about 15 minutes at the bar one night. I made some decent headway but wasn't close to a close. Then right as the bar was closing, the lights were on, and they were kicking everybody out, my best friend starts talking to the same girl. In 5 minutes, he got himself invited back to her place and ended up fvcking her.
I didn't care and let it go. Then a couple of weeks ago out of nowhere, the same girl finds me on myspace and starts messaging me. And we have a lot of mutual friends, so that was what she talked to me about. But we agreed to grab a drink sometime. Wednesday night, I was up there, and she came over to sit with me. We talked for about an hour about random things. She still seemed somewhat intererested although she kept up this whole ****y "I'm better than you facade" the whole night which annoyed the **** out of me. And every time I tried to use C&F to take her down a peg, she'd get defensive. But I wonder if that's because she's obviously not genuinely stuck up. She's overcompensating for the fact that she has low self esteem.
Anyway, once I realized I wasn't going to get the f close Wednesday night and that the signals were wrong to try to go for the k close, I just bailed without even bothering with the # close even though I think that's what she was hoping for.
So I ran into her again at random last night at the same bar. She seemed receptive at first. But her BT seemed to drop as the night progressed. I did some things right, though. At one point, she and my friend got into a long discussion about coffee which I was not part of. I got bored and got up and left and went to go talk to some other friends. A few minutes later she comes to find me and asks if I was bored. After settling the would be fight between the boyfriend of the other girl and the douche, I came back inside and sat down at the table with her and her friends. The signals seemed different. Her BT seemed lower, and I ended up just talking music with the guy across the table with me who used to be one of my customers when I worked at the CD store. When she hugged me goodbye, it felt more like a friend hug. I think the door was closed.
Chick number 2: I also just ran into her at random last night. But she left about 5 minutes after I got there. After saying hi, she asked me to get her some water, and I know I probably should have told her to get up and get it herself, but I was going to the bar anyway to get beer, so I thought I'd be nice. Was that too AFC? I didn't sit down and wait for approval when I got back. I set her water down on the table next to her and softly said into her ear, "Don't say I never did anything for you," and walked off to sit at the next table over with the friends I came there with.
She made a half ass effort to say goodbye to me when she left, but nothing like the previous time we had hung out. Plus, she seems to be keeping me at bay using words like, "Man," to address me. I hate that. That's a turn off. I say, "man," all the time, but I say it to my guy friends. Girls aren't supposed to say that.
Chick number 3: She wasn't really even a prospect. Just somebody I had liked for awhile but couldn't do anything about it because she was dating a friend/acquaintence of mine. But since she has a history of getting drunk and making out with random other guys at the bar, her boyfriends often get sick of her ****. She's worked her way through a lot of my circle of friends now. I just wanted to be next. It sucks because she's a sweet girl with a really good heart. She's just got a bunch of issues. You can tell that she'd make an awesome girlfriend if she could ever stop feeling like she has to have the approval of every guy at the bar. She's another one of those super hot girls with low self esteem, and so she acts like a slut.
Long story short, she made out with another guy last night in front of her boyfriend, and I had to stop him from kicking the other guy's ass. And there's no way the other guy would have won. Her boyfriend is short but stocky. 5'9" and 230. And most of that is muscle. Not only that, but he's a trained fighter. The douche who took her home was a tall, skinny guy with a big mouth and nothing to back it up.
