"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm having a really hard time getting back into cold approaching

Deicide

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Like the thread says, I'm having a really hard time getting back into cold approaching. My first go-round was a hell of a ride...in a bad way. I carried a lot of nervousness, anxiousness, fear, and negativity around me every day. I remember feeling worry and fear waking up in the mornings on days that I planned to go out and sarge. I was miserable, and I rarely had any sucesss and I never got laid with cold approach. So, I had no one with it. And, when I stopped doing it, I had no one either, but I wanted a way to do it. It felt good living in a comfortable life not worried about girls, but I had nothing. So, back to cold approach we go again.

This time, I'm more mature and can handle situations better. But I'm not impulsive at all. I just can't walk up to girls and approach, my mind won't let me. The good thing is I've found a life outside of women, and I really want to push myself out of my comfort zone, even though it's going to be so hard. What I want to do is to confidently approach a woman I want with no worry, nervousness, or fear of consequences. When a woman is with a friend in Day Game, I'm more hesitant to approach, becaue I feel like I'm being judged by not only the girl I like, but also her friend. I'm just not a mentally strong person. But I'm not lying to myself anymore.

I want this. I could just stick to the drudgery of waiting and waiting on a girl to be available with social circle game, but I want more out of life. I know I can do this, but I will need a lot of help reframing things, because I've been bad with women my whole life. I'm tired of having regrets and running from my fears. What can I do to get back into the game confidently?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ladyzman

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Take it slow, baby steps. Say hi, ask her name, where she's from etc. With practice, your anxiety will decrease. Make it a habit to talk to one new girl a month. After a couple months, make it 1 girl bi-weekly, then weekly. Over time it'll just happen naturally, where you see a girl you like and you just go up and talk to her.

Baby steps work. Believe me, I meet so many beautiful women because I'm not afraid to say hi it's ridiculousness. Had I not overcome that fear, I would have been doomed to my 1-a-year batting average. More like sitting at the bench, waiting for a player to get injured so I can play in the game. Now, I score at least once a month. That's like a 1200% improvement, or something like that.

All the best with women.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

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