I'm having a problem......please, i need advice.

[hellfire45]

So heres the deal. I've been dating this chick for two years. We live together, know the parents, they like me, I like them, we don't really have very many relationship problems. We rarely ever fight. Pretty good stuff.

The sex is the problem. Naturally right?
I'm not bad in bed, I've given this girl 2 orgasms back to back on multiple occasions but she doesn't really seem to be enjoying sex anymore because she thinks its getting boring.
I feel like I need to have sex 3-4 times a week. I just want it, I'm a red blooded human being, I am driven to have sex, but it seems like we have gotten into this sexual routine(same progression, same positions etc...) and its becoming boring for her especially because "sex isn't as important to her" anyway.

We have a third roommate and neither of us are at home at the same time during the week except at night. So I normally am feeling in the mood and I'll try to make an advance but she just doesn't seem interested. I discovered that she thought it was boring after having a discussion...

Does anybody have any advice for me? Anybody been in a similar situation? And please don't just say, "don't the *****" because with so much going right, its not worth breaking up at this point.

Thanks.

 

[WC2]

Don't be needy for sex.

Women start wanting sex less when they know you want it all the time. Even worse, they start using it as a tool to get things they want later down the road.

Put the power back in your hands. Don't ask for sex for the next week or so and I guarantee that it will come naturally. In fact, never ask for sex. It's a gradual process to move from going from the nonsexual to the sexual. Foreplay is needed. And I'm not talking just physical foreplay. Verbal foreplay. Talk sexual with your woman when the time is right. If she is feeling it, keep it up. If not.. find another woman!

Whenever my girl didn't offer me sex, I got it elsewhere. But that is a moral battle that isn't to be talked about here.

Bottom line, if she knows you want it badly, she will use it to her power to keep it from you till she wants something. If you don't show her you need it, she will WANT to give it to you.

 

[hellfire45]

Thanks WC2 for the advice. that makes sense and I will give it a try.