"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Im good looking but im not sexy

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R1ch4rd

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Right... Over a year ago or so i started going out with friends. I was a social recluse before then. Now I noticed i got loads of stares and shy looks from cute girls and some loud girls even flirting with me.. Now I don't seem to get much, I mean I'm taller, dress well and I'm still good looking.
But Last night im sitting there at a party. My hairs pretty good look messy/medium, got a bit of stylish stubble what makes me look bit older, and this other guy, wouldnt really call ugly or good looking, this sexy girls like hes well sexy.
Now is it because I need to get leaner(bit of fat still on cheeks) a sexy hairstyle? or what?
At the moment what keeps my confidence up is knowing that Im good looking, and blessed with these genes, but when that gets knocked like this its really hard.

Man im soo loostt :S:S
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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All I have to say is I don't think confidence should be based on your looks; it should be based on truly understanding your character.

Basing your confidence on your looks will make you insecure because other peoples' opinions may matter more than your own, and that is why girls are often insecure.
 
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Read the post in my signature...If you really don't feel like improving, i'll summarize it for you

As sage said..confidence shouldn't come solely/at all from looks

Your ego is what's killing you...It makes you feel insecure/not confident. It tells you that you need to look better, get bigger, get richer, etc.

The ego also leads to judgment and having opinions. I know it may be hard to comprehend since we're taught from a young age to have opinions on certain subjects. But the problem this creates is duality. We begin to see things as independent beings. You see yourself as separate from others; you must realize that we are all connected and one. Everything is and has always been everything. There is genuine equality among all things, living or non living.

Why should you feel inferior/not confident? Why should you feel confident based on external appearances which anyone can now manipulate with a machete or plastic surgery operation? If anything, confidence should come from an internal source. A source that is founded on deep understanding of the world and morality.
 
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