"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm good at small talk, how do I turn up the heat with her (flirt effectively)?

Brighty

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Basically the same girl I've been gaming since about two weeks ago I fear I'm starting to fall into the friend zone with her. I'm good at simple conversation, neg hits, poking fun at her, but how do I let her know that I'm into her and that I want to be more than friends?

I know initating kino is good and all, but what are some specific ways you guys go about it and in addition, what are things I can say/do to let her know that I'm starting to show interest in her, but at the same time keep the cool, hard-to-get guy persona?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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im gonna keep an eye on this thread because new light can get shined down, aside from whats already in the bible.

Lets hear it
 

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Number one is eye contact. The right kind of eye contact.

Look at her sensually and seductively. She'll know.

Touch her hand, and the inside of her forearm.

Change your body language during your interactions. Sometimes you want to be turned into her, hips and shoudlers aimed at her when you say something deep and meaningful, and then sometimes turn away from her, saying interesting things to get her going.

What are your passions?
What are hers?
What do you want out of life?

What does she?

IF she had a million dollars, what would she do with it?

What is the most romantic thing she has ever done for a guy?
What is the most romantic thing has a guy ever done with her?
Get her into the "state".
Then start the kino, and the triangulation, and body language.
Show interest, and then do the takeaway. Then go back to her again.

Watch her body language, and evaluate how she is responding.

Also, the more receptive she is, the more you can escalate.
Start by leading with body language. Grab her hand and squeeze it, and interlock your fingers with her. Justy look at her. Then take her for a walk.
Kino, escalate, isolate, and LEAD.

Sh*t, re reading this, it looks TOO formulaic and routine. But it works. (I do this, but I don't use a step by step, go by the numbers routine. This is just what I do. I look at her seductively and touch her suggestively. But I calibrate myself to her response, and at what stage opf the relationship dynamic we're at.)
It just looks this way because it;s written down and looks like a formula. Too artificial, too clinical.
But you know what?
These are the logical steps in attraction in humans. We do this naturally. And sometimes uncounsciously. this is a ll part5 of natural human mating ritual. after all, what are techiques and such but copies of what naturals do?


Anywya, tyr to do this in a relaxed sensual manner.
Yeah, I know it soudns funny..but BE NATURAL.
 

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Wanna know what gets **** moving?

Playful teasing. The kind where a lot of touching is involved. I know you've done it before. We all have. And I know you've seen it before. Get her touching you, and touch her back. Take something out of her hands, and play keep away. Grab her arms. Lightly push her. (Playfully.. don't abuse her.) Make a C+F joke, then be like Just kidding.. then hug her again. Then make another comment. Watch her punch you. Try and grab her hand, dodge it.. just **** like that. Tease her dude. You can't go wrong. Once you get past that for a while. She will be comfortable about your touch. Then put on your serious/game face and hug her like you mean it. Hold her hand, kiss her. Make her sit on your lap.. etc...
 
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