Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have done something about it. I've gotten 3 or 4 locked already.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Get out of my ****ing topic already.
I completely agree.
God damn it, when did I say I DIDN'T YOUR ASKING ME TO ADMIT SOMETHING I DIDN'T DENY and I'm not ****ing looking for an instant fix. I KNOW THAT THERE IS NO MAGICAL ****ING TOPIC THAT WILL MAKE ME A BETTER CONVERSATION AND NO MAGICAL TOPIC THAT WILL MAKE ME MORE INTERESTING, I'M NOT LOOKING FOR A QUICK FIX, MR. I THINK I KNOW EVERYTHING. I'm not going to admit it, because it's not true, I'm looking for tips that I can use to EVENTUALLY get better at conversation and tips I can use to improve attraction OVER TIME, *******. So just shutup, because you do not know ****, if you want to keep posting your stupid presumations, do it, I don't care because I know its not true. Let's be realistic here, I know there is no quick fix, so WHY WOULD I BE LOOKING FOR ONE, HUH, MR. SMARTASS? Exactly, I'm not looking for a quick -mother****ing- fix, I'm looking for tips that will help me improve over time.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
viper im not b1tching at u so dont write a reply post to what i say ok : he gave pretty good advice on how to make a steady change we all have been giving you advice and you keep replying that we dont know shyt and insulting peopleto not post even when they are giving you good advice. so please if u want people to keep giving you advice to help you out (we do want to help) dont turn around and insult enyone who doesnt give the advice you dont like.
You know what is spam? These threads you keep making that serve no other purpose than rubbing your e-peen. Aww, you're tired of my b*tching, complaining sheer ignorance and "hypocracy". Consequently, you're also tired of many other people that just won't stop complaining to you. But I'm sure we're all imagining things and you know exactly what's going on.
Well, to the tell you the truth I don't really have a good voice tone, but I'm going to work on improving that, if it will improve my game, problem is, I have no clue how to improve my voice tone, maybe you guys could help me out with that? I would very much appreciate it.
Hmm... interesting advice, I think this technique will definitely help me improve.
Very good advice, I'm going to start putting more emphasis on how I say things, than on what I actually say. Man, I'm going to stop planning conversations and just let things naturally flow, because what if I plan something and things don't go exactly how I pictured them? That's just asking for trouble. But yeah, I'm definitely going to apply these things if I decide to make an approach at band rehearsal today.
You honestly dont get it. Denial is a bit*h.
What am I ****ing denying? Honestly, I've had no ****ing clue what you guys have been talking about me, 'denying' and 'not accepting', since the first time you stated I was 'denying' it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You don't READ do you. If you read a damn thing, which you obviously don't, you would know that I am taking the advice with open arms, but no, you don't read, remember, denial is a *****.
No stuff.
I'm not a naturally funny guy, ****y but not funny, so it will be a while until I'm secure about using neg hits on girls, nonetheless, I will see into learning about this neg hit stuff.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I concure.
Dude i tried that sh*t too. He has to sort out his problems and actually do something about one thing instead of trying to solve everything at once...because obviously it isnt working.
You don't need to reply to my topic, you need shut the hell up.
STEP ONE - I already do this.
After the "Hi, I'm Mike" the girl usually doesn't reply or if she's nice enough and isn't a *****, she'll say "It's nice to meet you", but we never even get to the actual conversation.
Sure, I can do that, so you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to be polite and ignore them if they don't have anything useful to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
