'i'm going to so and so place.. you should come along'

[drift king]

this line i've seen muted around in the tips a lot how you dont ask a girl out but say you're going to so and so place and she should come along, and if she declines u say 'ok i'm going anyway so if you change your mind let me know'

i don't see how this would not make u look like a loner going to a place by yourself?

 

[drift king]

i understand for the example they used a rock concert or music festival as the bait but still if you say you're going to so and so place and that you're going anyway with or without her it just makes it seem as if u should be going with some people rather than on your own.. if you're going with friends and she comes along then it's not a date.

what examples of 'so and so' places could u go where it's viable you'd go by yourself without looking like a loner? (i think the mall could be a good example)

 

[Aragon034]

depends on what the activity is. personally i love Rock climbing.

It's perfect! if she agrees, great! if not, works out for me as well since partnering up there is real easy. you can meet alot of cool people there.

Typical Interaction

"Hey, i was actually going to rock climbing place on thursday, i get the feeling you'd like it."

She replies something like

"Rock climbing? I've never been."

blah blah blah


"Sure! sounds like fun, what do i need?"

Or

"Oh i wanna go but i work/school/abduct cows from a farm that day"

"That's fine, i go often and you can partner up right there, give me your schedule and if any dates line up soon, we'll go."

If she declines.

"Nah that's ok, i work/hold seances/do my hair that night and besides i'm not sure it's right for me."

"To each his own, i'll just partner up with one of the athletic young women who work/go there." <---- something along these lines to know i'm not going to be there on my own. whehter it's a friend or whatever.


Depending on what is it your going to, this can or cannot work. I mean, going to a movie or an amusement park isn't a good choice for this style.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

this line i've seen muted around in the tips a lot how you dont ask a girl out but say you're going to so and so place and she should come along, and if she declines u say 'ok i'm going anyway so if you change your mind let me know'

i don't see how this would not make u look like a loner going to a place by yourself?

Read this

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=138438

 

[tsmith2334]

"To each his own, i'll just partner up with one of the athletic young women who work/go there." <---- something along these lines to know i'm not going to be there on my own. whehter it's a friend or whatever.

Careful with the "oh, I'll just replace you with someone better" technique. Most women tend to see through it pretty easily.

Let actions speak louder than words.

 

[Aragon034]

Careful with the "oh, I'll just replace you with someone better" technique. Most women tend to see through it pretty easily.

Let actions speak louder than words.

That's why i love the rock climbing style. they love taking pictures of partners especially if they are having alot of fun. There's plenty of pictures of me with different people on their wall of photos

Besides, i probably wouldn't say EXACTLY that. I might say something like "That's cool, i know lots of people there anyways."

 

[tsmith2334]

That's why i love the rock climbing style. they love taking pictures of partners especially if they are having alot of fun. There's plenty of pictures of me with different people on their wall of photos

Besides, i probably wouldn't say EXACTLY that. I might say something like "That's cool, i know lots of people there anyways."

works

and that's a great idea for an action date by the way

 

[Infamous_Wolf]

Hmmm, how's about this. If you really feel that wierd about looking like a loner, instead of saying "I'm going to XXXX", you might say "I *want* to go to XXXX, and you should come with me."