Epicwinguy
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm going insane. What do I do?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You are not insane... You are just wallowing in self-pity, defeatism, and self-disgust.
You say you want "this **** so I can possibly hook up with a decent reasonably young looking girl" and that is weak... You should do things only for yourself, do not seek to find success to please women. Instead find success for yourself, in doing such you become a stronger man and one that is more desirable to women. But make women secondary, the goal is not women but yourself.
Instead of wallowing and focusing on all the negative you instead need to focus on the positive and actively do something about it. You are talking about the past, but the past is just that... You need to move on from the negativity, you need to move on from the defeatism. Your mindset is toxic and you need to try to fix it.
Since high school what have you actually done to improve yourself? What are you doing now intead of wallowing here? You need to set goals in life, you need to work towards something, you need a purpose, you need to fight through the hard times and endure.
One thing... It is in our darkest moments and deepest pains that provide us the opportunity to grow stronger. It is then when you face yourself and you have to choose to either change it or to continue to suffer it. This moment of your suffering can be turned into a moment of clarity. Nobody here can help you... You can only help yourelf. You need to take control of your life.
You say you want "this **** so I can possibly hook up with a decent reasonably young looking girl" and that is weak... You should do things only for yourself, do not seek to find success to please women. Instead find success for yourself, in doing such you become a stronger man and one that is more desirable to women. But make women secondary, the goal is not women but yourself.
Instead of wallowing and focusing on all the negative you instead need to focus on the positive and actively do something about it. You are talking about the past, but the past is just that... You need to move on from the negativity, you need to move on from the defeatism. Your mindset is toxic and you need to try to fix it.
Since high school what have you actually done to improve yourself? What are you doing now intead of wallowing here? You need to set goals in life, you need to work towards something, you need a purpose, you need to fight through the hard times and endure.
One thing... It is in our darkest moments and deepest pains that provide us the opportunity to grow stronger. It is then when you face yourself and you have to choose to either change it or to continue to suffer it. This moment of your suffering can be turned into a moment of clarity. Nobody here can help you... You can only help yourelf. You need to take control of your life.
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