"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Im going for it tomorrow ( might suffer my 1st rejection in yrs)

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Well so far i haven asked this girl out or let her know that i want to get with her or wateva cause i got this 2 yr streak without a rejection and even though this girl is sending me some signs that she is interested she alson sends me others that she aint, mixsigns, so tomorrow ima just go for it.

Ima pull her to the side and just ..............oh ****! haha its been so long that i even forgat how my game was, lol.

Naw but on da reel ima just be like " can i talk to u for a min" "can i ask u something" "are you seeing someone ? if she says yes then ima just be like " oh ok then im sorry i didnt mean to disrispect you or your partner i apologize" that looks good and educated and respecful if she says no then ill just say" Well i know that we dont really know each other thta much but just wanted to let you know that i would like to get with you etc..."

Wat yall think? oh and yes its the serious girl from work but it seems like shes a lil more interested now, today when i spoke spanish she was intriged by knowing where i was from, at first i said" from a lott a places" then like an hr later she asked me again " so are u gonna tell me where u from" i just told her and we are from the same country, but anyways wat yall think, and wish me luck!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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howima bout u jest axed er if she be playn ya fo moneeez an o dad shiznit imeen cmon foo

Seriously though, don't ask her if she has anyone, just intensify her feelings and go for some kino/kiss/whatever move you can pull in the situation.
 

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You seem to be missing the most vital part about asking girls out: assume the sale is closed. There is no way this girl would be dumb enough to reject me. Think that way everytime you approach a girl.

Word it in a way that doesn't give her a way out. that way you give the appearance that YOU KNOW she wont reject you, and that is confidence. You are more likely to attract her if you're sure in yourself, then if you think she will reject you. As for that streak of no rejection? You can't get rejected if you don't try. And you know what, rejection is still much better then not trying, it gives you the satisfaction of knowing you had the balls to try.

Now, this is the correct way to ask (after you finish reading this post, read the DJ Bible):

WRONG: Are you seeing someone?
RIGHT: I wanna see you sometime, what's your number?


WRONG: Oh sorry I didn't know you had a boyfriend, sorry I didn't mean to disrespect you, please kick me in the nuts.
RIGHT: I'm not interested in your boyfriend, I'm interested in you, what's your number?


WRONG: Would you liket to have dinner with me friday night?
RIGHT: I'm taking you out friday night, we're gonna have a blast, I'll be there to pick you up at <time>, so be ready
<---- notice how you didn't say where you're going (make her wonder)

Do you see the pattern? Don't ask for permission, it makes you look weak, and it's easier for her to reject you if you give her a way out. Take charge.

And when you ask, don't be nervous. Maintain eyecontact, smile if even if she says no, and don't let anything bring you down. Even if you fail, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you went after something you wanted without letting fear get in your way. And if you do this just once in your life, you can do it again anytime you want.

Don't be afraid of rejection. The more you get rejected = the more mistakes you make = the more mistakes you can learn from. With every rejection, you get better at dealing with women, because you learn something along the way. Even the people who get girls get rejected. The difference between them and those who don't get girls is that they do not give up after rejection.
 

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yeh man tx for the advise, im about to go right now, i'll let yall know how it went when i get back
 

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Well it turned out that somehow my boss found out thru a fellow coworker that the girl at the front desk wanted to get with me also and i just wouldnt go and tak to her, we joked about it and he said if im scare this and that, i told him i like the girl that i was supposed to ask out/talk to today and i didnt , i think he's the main problem why.

After i told him that, like 5 mins later he called her over and although i didnt see them or hear them talk im 100 percent sure that he was telling her how i like her.
He is this funny/joker type of boss so no he doesnt care if coworkers go out, himself is in a realationship with a worker, but i had this strong feeling that if i asked her out or wateva i would had gotten rejected cause of him telling her that im interested in her etc...

I dont care though tomorow im doing it regardless of the outcome, feelings wateva tomorrow im doing it and get it over with one way or the other
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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