"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm going back to the basics with socializing

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honestly, I've been stuck on overanalyzing and trying way too hard when it comes to women and talking to people for way too long

I notice I'm the strongest socially when I'm super comfortable/natural/instinctual. I'm not trying to act a certain way or impress people. I think most of us here make this process much harder than it really is and our most comfortable/natural self is plenty good enough.

For me, I'm not the funniest person in the world. My strength in social situations is that im genuinely a very good person (I'm super loyal, unselfish, etc...) and when I'm being my most natural self, this comes out very well and almost everyone likes me

cliffnotes: I'm taking it back to the basics, relying on instincts and talking to people to have a good time and expect absolutely nothing in return and want nothing in return. I have the best success when I expect nothing from the outcome. What's weird is the more you want the outcome to be good, the worse it is. The less you care about the outcome, the more people like you
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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