honestly, I've been stuck on overanalyzing and trying way too hard when it comes to women and talking to people for way too long
I notice I'm the strongest socially when I'm super comfortable/natural/instinctual. I'm not trying to act a certain way or impress people. I think most of us here make this process much harder than it really is and our most comfortable/natural self is plenty good enough.
For me, I'm not the funniest person in the world. My strength in social situations is that im genuinely a very good person (I'm super loyal, unselfish, etc...) and when I'm being my most natural self, this comes out very well and almost everyone likes me
cliffnotes: I'm taking it back to the basics, relying on instincts and talking to people to have a good time and expect absolutely nothing in return and want nothing in return. I have the best success when I expect nothing from the outcome. What's weird is the more you want the outcome to be good, the worse it is. The less you care about the outcome, the more people like you
I notice I'm the strongest socially when I'm super comfortable/natural/instinctual. I'm not trying to act a certain way or impress people. I think most of us here make this process much harder than it really is and our most comfortable/natural self is plenty good enough.
For me, I'm not the funniest person in the world. My strength in social situations is that im genuinely a very good person (I'm super loyal, unselfish, etc...) and when I'm being my most natural self, this comes out very well and almost everyone likes me
cliffnotes: I'm taking it back to the basics, relying on instincts and talking to people to have a good time and expect absolutely nothing in return and want nothing in return. I have the best success when I expect nothing from the outcome. What's weird is the more you want the outcome to be good, the worse it is. The less you care about the outcome, the more people like you
