Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
izza said:It seems to me that you are afraid of giving too much of yourself. You give crumbs trying to be perfect. It seems to me that if you had a profound feeling of being wonderful, you would know that the more you give them of your wonderfulness the more they will love you for it. It is only when people don't know to the core that they are wonderful that they feel afraid to give themselves in anything larger than specks.
I guarantee you, Tick. You can give chicks a lot more interaction with you than you think. I can tell right away that you are a wonderful person. You seem scared, but also like a really honest and true person. I know that chicks already dig you for who you are. If you insist on feeding them crumbs (as I know many on this board counsel you), I sure hope they're graham cracker crumbs with chocolate bits. That's not a metaphor, it's just good food.
Izza
Bingo. Dont cut em off completley but make sure they initiate the transactions.tick37 said:Text and reply whenever you want, and not when you think she wants you to. Not being too available is always the key.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
lol, oh ok. Do you think if all my ideas were super-manly like yours, I would have TWO women texting me right now?! Wow, that'd be really great!tick37 said:I don't question myself. I know how this sh1t works, and you won't convince me otherwise. My sh1t is dead on, and if you disagree, you need to start doing some research. I read your crap, and I keep thinking your woman. It's all feminized.