You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
izza said:It seems to me that you are afraid of giving too much of yourself. You give crumbs trying to be perfect. It seems to me that if you had a profound feeling of being wonderful, you would know that the more you give them of your wonderfulness the more they will love you for it. It is only when people don't know to the core that they are wonderful that they feel afraid to give themselves in anything larger than specks.
I guarantee you, Tick. You can give chicks a lot more interaction with you than you think. I can tell right away that you are a wonderful person. You seem scared, but also like a really honest and true person. I know that chicks already dig you for who you are. If you insist on feeding them crumbs (as I know many on this board counsel you), I sure hope they're graham cracker crumbs with chocolate bits. That's not a metaphor, it's just good food.
Izza
Bingo. Dont cut em off completley but make sure they initiate the transactions.tick37 said:Text and reply whenever you want, and not when you think she wants you to. Not being too available is always the key.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
lol, oh ok. Do you think if all my ideas were super-manly like yours, I would have TWO women texting me right now?! Wow, that'd be really great!tick37 said:I don't question myself. I know how this sh1t works, and you won't convince me otherwise. My sh1t is dead on, and if you disagree, you need to start doing some research. I read your crap, and I keep thinking your woman. It's all feminized.