im fvked

[spang]

i was playing basketball today at the gym. there was a girl last week who i asked to play one on one with me but she said no, she was there again today. i didnt ask her again. so some sleezy looking thug a$$ looking guy walks up and starts fvckin with her and she ends up playing a game with him. then they left together.
i have nothing they want. im worthless to them. i cant change myself. im a nervous wreck around people. im not a people person. i can act like i am but its not real.

i cant bring myself to approach anymore. i just want to hang myself and get it over with if i have to live with this kind of suffering. i hate women.

 

[D.J. King Allister]

You're finally at the bottom of the ocean. Now try thinking of anything worst than this, that can happen to you. You can't. So, all that's left for you is to move up. Have patient and work on your inner game first. It would be gradual, but I guarantee you it will pay off.

 

[TonyBaloney]

I like to quote a famous old man who died just a couple of years ago....he was 114, and his name was Henry Allingham, Englands last world war one vet.

The guy had swam through rivers of dead bodys with rats knawing through the dead flesh, 90 YEARS before he told his story. He was a recluse for 30 years before he came to prominence as the last of the great.

Reason why I tell you this is that lost everything he ever held dear. But was philosophical about it all when he said " Ive had a great life, Ive scraped the barrel and skimmed the cream"

Your a young man, you have many, many, many experiences ahead of you.

Gotta learn you get those lows......but there will be the highs too...... always....

 

[Renegade357]

i have nothing they want. im worthless to them. i cant change myself. im a nervous wreck around people. im not a people person. i can act like i am but its not real.

Hah, you only need to win once. They can smell your hunger. Learn to be more indirect in your approach.

 

[Greasy Pig]

We've all been there, OP.
Women have choice and sometimes they just choose to not accept your advances. No big deal.
She was obviously more attracted to that other dude. Again, no big deal.

One problem with taking the red pill and seeking to improve yourself, is that you're also required to develop a kind of persona which exudes confidence and an attitude of "I'm the best looking, funniest, best dressed mutha fvcka in here and any girl would be overjoyed to ride my c0ck."
It's important to have this mindset but it also leaves your ego open to getting stomped on when the object of your desire doesn't share your interest.

I real with it by saying to myself: "We'll, that's her loss."
You have to just convince yourself that an uninterested woman is a positive thing because you've weeded out an unworthy candidate and are free to find one who is right for you.

It's ok to feel hurt, but use the pain as a spur to rise again and be the best man you can be.

 

[BeDJ]

We've all been there, OP.
One problem with taking the red pill and seeking to improve yourself, is that you're also required to develop a kind of persona which exudes confidence and an attitude of "I'm the best looking, funniest, best dressed mutha fvcka in here and any girl would be overjoyed to ride my c0ck."
It's important to have this mindset but it also leaves your ego open to getting stomped on when the object of your desire doesn't share your interest.

This should be your EXACT mindset and hopefully you have built up enough inner confidence that bold part does not phase you. As stated, just have the "her loss" mentality and move on. One of the MOST POWERFUL attributes you can gain through the teachings of this site. Slowly and painfully, I'll attain it :yes:

 

[BlackEricNorthman]

Wasup Spang. I've been there.

About a year and a half ago I hooked up with this girl I was working with. The intention was not to make it serious as I had other women around me at the same time, and I knew better than to make her serious. Even though the signs were all around me (worked with her/saw her everyday, she cheated on her boyfriend with me, manipulative, daddy issues) I tried to make her exclusive anyway.

Needless to say it backfired in the worst possible way and it's taken me almost two years to get over this girl. I eventually lost that job which was a blessing and a curse. I was finally free of seeing her everyday and the unbearable depression and blinding anger that brought, I had to give up my apartment since I couldn't afford it. I moved in with roomates and determined I had lost my way as a self-confident male and needed to figure out why I was still depressed over her almost two years later.

The problem I see with you and this random girl (and probably other women you interact with) is the same problem I had with my ex: You are seeking approval of others to determine your worth. My major depression, as well as my failure to move on and be confident and successful with other women afterwards came from the fact that I liked getting attention from her so much that i depended on it to be happy. Not only that put I had a habit of getting close to other women in my past the same way.

Basically you, me as well as many men have a problem of confusing acceptance and attention from others as real value. That's not a way to live as when you fail to get that approval from another, or have the approval from a woman and then it suddenly is taken away from you (which happens often) you feel like your potential for happiness has been robbed from you and you can't get it back.

The best way to prevent this need for "societal approval acceptance" is to fix the person within. Get away from pickup, strategies about women for a few days or even weeks. Really think and figure out something you are interested in, a hobby you enjoy, activities you use to be into. Hang with friends and family. Learn something new, find something you always wanted to do but always made excuse not to do and go do those things! Really enjoy life instead of living off others acceptance of you. Accept yourself by making yourself happy at all times! :box:

Don't do these things to impress anyone. Don't do them simply to seem like a big deal to girls. Do these things to find out about yourself, learn what is truly valuable to you and your life, Do things that make you happy simply because it's positive and you enjoy it in your life. and to finally realize that no woman or person's acceptance of you is more important than how you value yourself. Once you learn to accept yourself and just say "fvck it" at least I'm happy with myself, you'll never feel the way you feel today again. Trust me, I'm with you brotha.