Donald Kaufman
Don Juan
You say you are from the netherlands.
The Netherlands
I have not run into that much myself either but c'mon, the netherlands. I think it might be cultural.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm finding all the crappy girls
- Thread starter sfalexi
- Start date
The Netherlands
I have not run into that much myself either but c'mon, the netherlands. I think it might be cultural.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a girl gets upset cause you used a curse word in front of her, I tend to think that they wouldn't even last long enough going out with me for physical intamacy to come into play.
I do live in America, but I'm not lookin' for a hor. I'm lookin for someone normal. Someone who doesn't give it up to everyone they meet on the first date, but someone who has a sense of reality and isn't afraid for sex to come into play at some point in a relatoinship, if the relationship is indeed going well.
You're right. But if my daughter was 19 years old and came back from college telling me that she had been in a relationship with so-and-so for five months, I'm not going to delude myself into thinking, "Well, they probably only have kissed. I'm sure that they're both waiting for marriage." I don't want to know FOR SURE what they're doing (and God help me if I catch them doing it), but I'm not stupid enough to think that they're not doing anything.
Good idea.
Most of the girls I tend to go after are girls that I know for a little while. Never really ask girls out on first meetings, but after getting to know a girl a little bit in a class at college or through friends, I'll ask them out if they seem like they'd be fun dates and look like they'll be a fun girl to start a relationship with.
I don't swear much (probably a major factor in why I seem to be attracting the religious types). I do however break out sexual type humor if I think it'll make them laugh and also to sort of gauge their reaction to the openness of sex - if they clam up after a joke like that, I can play it off as a joke, and if they go along with it I would think they're not the conservative uptight freaks I've seemed to attract for so long - - (for instance I asked a girl to come swimming with me at school and told her to make sure to wear a nice two-piece. She laughed and said, 'Im sorry but I'm just gonna wear a one-piece.' to which I responded and said, 'That's fine with me. Now which one piece are you going to wear? The top or the bottom? So I know what to expect.')
I haven't really picked up girls at bars or anything because I haven't yet become comfortable in bars. Tonight I'm going to a jazz bar though so I figure even if the women there suck, at least I'll get to listen to some decent music.
If you need any other info to help me out, let me know.
Alexi
I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
Good point
So, move to the Netherlands if you wanna find girls that don't wait until marriage - most of them know english and there's plenty of hot girls around here (providing you go to the right cities).