"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm Evil and should be destoryed.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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The Inside Man - I'm PuertoRican_Lover, salsa is not foreign to me, although I prefer Merengue.
I'm on your side, and wish you the best; thus; my warning to you youngsters!
Dancing is a hyper-emotional state, the flashing lights on the dance floor contribute to this state, by design.
Seek the long lasting over the temporal - love is long lasting - eternal!!
I'm on your side, and wish you the best; thus; my warning to you youngsters!
Dancing is a hyper-emotional state, the flashing lights on the dance floor contribute to this state, by design.
Seek the long lasting over the temporal - love is long lasting - eternal!!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
The problem with defining love is in the classifying, qualifying and quantifying it. It's a lot like saying "what is art?", "I dunno, but I know what I like." Bear in mind that anything can become normal, and all the sh!t men say they'll never tolerate from a woman when single are exactly the behaviors they're conditioned to appreciate (and accept) as her endearing little quirks when they become emotionally involved.
My interpretation of love is simple. There are no classifications for the feeling. All this agape, fraternal, erotic, etc. qualifications are simple lame attempts to define behavior. Love has elements of emotivity, behavioral sets and spirituality of course, but all of these are just manifestations of the same motive. There is no agape love, no erotic love, these are just behaviors and expressions of love not sub-types of love. The same love you feel for your mother, father, sister or brother is the same you feel with a GF, a spouse, the HB 8 you're infatuated with, and the hot piece of ass you banged last night - you simply expressed that love in a different way. I love my mother & daughter intensely, but I ƒuck my wife. It's my manifestation of love that's different. I love my best friend Derek, but I don't ƒuck him, I express that love in other ways. It's not a different feeling, it's a different expression.
When people classify and qualify love they do so because it serves their purpose. This may be profit, this may be insecurity, but whatever the reason it narrows the scope of love. I believe that God is love as well, but God and love are far bigger than our capacities for expressing it. When we insist on pigeonholing, categorizing and forcing our abilities to manifest love on people while saying "this is what love ought to be" we insult the universality of love.
My interpretation of love is simple. There are no classifications for the feeling. All this agape, fraternal, erotic, etc. qualifications are simple lame attempts to define behavior. Love has elements of emotivity, behavioral sets and spirituality of course, but all of these are just manifestations of the same motive. There is no agape love, no erotic love, these are just behaviors and expressions of love not sub-types of love. The same love you feel for your mother, father, sister or brother is the same you feel with a GF, a spouse, the HB 8 you're infatuated with, and the hot piece of ass you banged last night - you simply expressed that love in a different way. I love my mother & daughter intensely, but I ƒuck my wife. It's my manifestation of love that's different. I love my best friend Derek, but I don't ƒuck him, I express that love in other ways. It's not a different feeling, it's a different expression.
When people classify and qualify love they do so because it serves their purpose. This may be profit, this may be insecurity, but whatever the reason it narrows the scope of love. I believe that God is love as well, but God and love are far bigger than our capacities for expressing it. When we insist on pigeonholing, categorizing and forcing our abilities to manifest love on people while saying "this is what love ought to be" we insult the universality of love.
Señor Fingers
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Heresy!!!!Last Man Standing said:
You should have called yourself DominicanRepublic_Lover
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I have a confession to make - I don't know how to salsa.Señor Fingers said:
It's too much work - and the songs are long - it's like a job, too strenuous, more than a dance. Salsa originated in Cuba - Puerto Ricans took it over, commercially, because Cuba.has been isolated.Inside Man, woman always use the "love" word, always!!! Many times it is said to manipulate the male and to seek his loyalty. Our job, as men, is to determine whether her love is genuine - by testing her love through her actions/behavior, and not her words. I think you need to better know when it is genuine, sincere. Love is not expressed through the mouth - it is seen in her heart, and manifested in her actions towards you, for the long term!!
Also, she should not just show love towards you, but towards others as well! She should show love to others who she expects nothing from - this is the real test that reveals her heart and true intentions!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.