"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm Evil and should be destoryed.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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The Inside Man - I'm PuertoRican_Lover, salsa is not foreign to me, although I prefer Merengue.
I'm on your side, and wish you the best; thus; my warning to you youngsters!
Dancing is a hyper-emotional state, the flashing lights on the dance floor contribute to this state, by design.
Seek the long lasting over the temporal - love is long lasting - eternal!!
I'm on your side, and wish you the best; thus; my warning to you youngsters!
Dancing is a hyper-emotional state, the flashing lights on the dance floor contribute to this state, by design.
Seek the long lasting over the temporal - love is long lasting - eternal!!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
The problem with defining love is in the classifying, qualifying and quantifying it. It's a lot like saying "what is art?", "I dunno, but I know what I like." Bear in mind that anything can become normal, and all the sh!t men say they'll never tolerate from a woman when single are exactly the behaviors they're conditioned to appreciate (and accept) as her endearing little quirks when they become emotionally involved.
My interpretation of love is simple. There are no classifications for the feeling. All this agape, fraternal, erotic, etc. qualifications are simple lame attempts to define behavior. Love has elements of emotivity, behavioral sets and spirituality of course, but all of these are just manifestations of the same motive. There is no agape love, no erotic love, these are just behaviors and expressions of love not sub-types of love. The same love you feel for your mother, father, sister or brother is the same you feel with a GF, a spouse, the HB 8 you're infatuated with, and the hot piece of ass you banged last night - you simply expressed that love in a different way. I love my mother & daughter intensely, but I ƒuck my wife. It's my manifestation of love that's different. I love my best friend Derek, but I don't ƒuck him, I express that love in other ways. It's not a different feeling, it's a different expression.
When people classify and qualify love they do so because it serves their purpose. This may be profit, this may be insecurity, but whatever the reason it narrows the scope of love. I believe that God is love as well, but God and love are far bigger than our capacities for expressing it. When we insist on pigeonholing, categorizing and forcing our abilities to manifest love on people while saying "this is what love ought to be" we insult the universality of love.
My interpretation of love is simple. There are no classifications for the feeling. All this agape, fraternal, erotic, etc. qualifications are simple lame attempts to define behavior. Love has elements of emotivity, behavioral sets and spirituality of course, but all of these are just manifestations of the same motive. There is no agape love, no erotic love, these are just behaviors and expressions of love not sub-types of love. The same love you feel for your mother, father, sister or brother is the same you feel with a GF, a spouse, the HB 8 you're infatuated with, and the hot piece of ass you banged last night - you simply expressed that love in a different way. I love my mother & daughter intensely, but I ƒuck my wife. It's my manifestation of love that's different. I love my best friend Derek, but I don't ƒuck him, I express that love in other ways. It's not a different feeling, it's a different expression.
When people classify and qualify love they do so because it serves their purpose. This may be profit, this may be insecurity, but whatever the reason it narrows the scope of love. I believe that God is love as well, but God and love are far bigger than our capacities for expressing it. When we insist on pigeonholing, categorizing and forcing our abilities to manifest love on people while saying "this is what love ought to be" we insult the universality of love.
Señor Fingers
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Heresy!!!!Last Man Standing said:
You should have called yourself DominicanRepublic_Lover
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I have a confession to make - I don't know how to salsa.Señor Fingers said:
It's too much work - and the songs are long - it's like a job, too strenuous, more than a dance. Salsa originated in Cuba - Puerto Ricans took it over, commercially, because Cuba.has been isolated.Inside Man, woman always use the "love" word, always!!! Many times it is said to manipulate the male and to seek his loyalty. Our job, as men, is to determine whether her love is genuine - by testing her love through her actions/behavior, and not her words. I think you need to better know when it is genuine, sincere. Love is not expressed through the mouth - it is seen in her heart, and manifested in her actions towards you, for the long term!!
Also, she should not just show love towards you, but towards others as well! She should show love to others who she expects nothing from - this is the real test that reveals her heart and true intentions!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.