Had plans tonight.....Met her last weekend and made plans for tonight. She got off work a little late tonight, called me and said she is feeling tired, sick, etc. and had worked extra hours and wanted to reschedule. We rescheduled. She said "I'm really not a flake, I'm really sorry." She apologized again and I said "that's ok, I'll see you Sunday". What else could I say? I got off the phone real quick. I don't know, I guess **** happens and people become busy. But if she wanted to really see me, maybe she would have. I know people have lives but I remember a girlfriend in my early twenties of mine, she showed up to our date even though she was sick. Maybe I'm crazy, maybe life happens. But I'm discouraged. Should I give her another shot on Sunday? Should I stop expecting girls to drop everything and see me?
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I'm discouraged, but should I be?
- Thread starter trent81
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Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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Here is the thing, no matter what she has told you, what matters is how she said it to you that she is sick. A persons voice, even on the phone tells the truth, even if shes BS'ing that she is sick and tired.
A lot of guys will say to move on and that she is a flake. But how many of those guys know for a fact that she is sick? None!
Give her the benefit of the doubt. If she continues to give you excuses then you move on.
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
A lot of guys will say to move on and that she is a flake. But how many of those guys know for a fact that she is sick? None!
Give her the benefit of the doubt. If she continues to give you excuses then you move on.
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
Maybe you should build your life up more dude. Honestly this would not discourage a man who has important things to attend to. This would be a slight disapointment perhaps but bottomline there should be other more pressing matters to take up your time, efforts, and thoughts...by that your own life, other women, projects, etc.
I think you should give her another shot. If she flakes again you will know to simply move on. And you should never let yourself feel down over something like this. Its honestly a trivial matter. You had a small date with random girl, she flaked an rescheduled. Big deal. You shouldnt bat an eyelash over something like this. You are already investing too much into something that is nonexistent. Your vested interest should be in yourself and your own reality. If she wants to step into it and make it an even better place give her the chance, if she blows it she can go back from whence she came and you will continue forth on your journey of success. Thats how I live it.
keep it movin
I think you should give her another shot. If she flakes again you will know to simply move on. And you should never let yourself feel down over something like this. Its honestly a trivial matter. You had a small date with random girl, she flaked an rescheduled. Big deal. You shouldnt bat an eyelash over something like this. You are already investing too much into something that is nonexistent. Your vested interest should be in yourself and your own reality. If she wants to step into it and make it an even better place give her the chance, if she blows it she can go back from whence she came and you will continue forth on your journey of success. Thats how I live it.
keep it movin
Look man,
I love you guys, so I understand you assholves care about me. She did sound tired, she sounded drained. She also said she has to wake up in the morning and do it all over again. As for other pressing matters, I am working eight hours a day on securing a teaching job for next Spring. I get discouraged because I'm a very emotional assholve. Things get to me. I wish I was like an American dude who didn't care but I can't man. I am a very emotional and caring man who is really not that nice. Check out my threads. I fuvking love you guys. If you were here now, I would throw some baby back ribs on the bbq and we would do lines together after dinner. You son's of *****es are smart cats.
I love you guys, so I understand you assholves care about me. She did sound tired, she sounded drained. She also said she has to wake up in the morning and do it all over again. As for other pressing matters, I am working eight hours a day on securing a teaching job for next Spring. I get discouraged because I'm a very emotional assholve. Things get to me. I wish I was like an American dude who didn't care but I can't man. I am a very emotional and caring man who is really not that nice. Check out my threads. I fuvking love you guys. If you were here now, I would throw some baby back ribs on the bbq and we would do lines together after dinner. You son's of *****es are smart cats.
Maybe take a raincheck on snorting half of Bolivia up your nose - it may make things all a bit clearer for you.trent81 said:Look man,
I love you guys, so I understand you assholves care about me. She did sound tired, she sounded drained. She also said she has to wake up in the morning and do it all over again. As for other pressing matters, I am working eight hours a day on securing a teaching job for next Spring. I get discouraged because I'm a very emotional assholve. Things get to me. I wish I was like an American dude who didn't care but I can't man. I am a very emotional and caring man who is really not that nice. Check out my threads. I fuvking love you guys. If you were here now, I would throw some baby back ribs on the bbq and we would do lines together after dinner. You son's of *****es are smart cats.
Other than having a case of Ebola, I'm damn well meeting a chick that I am interested in alot, (if I am not that interested then I'd would stay in bed with my "cold" or "flu") and I'd expect the same from her. Even if I only last half an hour, I'd make an appearance, and then crawl off, she can at least see that I wasn't bulsh!tting. She may even offer to come back to my palce to rub a hot towl on my head and make me some warm lemon juice. Get the idea.
So, at first glance it seems she is not that interestested. If she really valued you, I'd suggest she would get out of her death bed. She may have some cursory interest in you, but not enough that she won't get out of bed.
And whats this, "she's got to get up and do it all again in the morning". She can get up in the morning and put herself thru the mill again - but she can't see you on a Friday night?! Or whatever day it is over where you are.
Julian's reply sounded harsh, but in reality he is right on the money.
OK - so you are going to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Then - just think of it like this: "I'm giving her one last chance to prove herself to ME on Sunday".
See the change in mindset? She has to PROVE HERSELF TO YOU.
Its taken me a while to get used to this idea, and in retrospect, as someone else may have commented a while ago to me- I still have my training wheels on, even at my advanced age.
And, please, stop telling us how much you love us and all that bullsh!t. That just makes you sound like a wanker. You are here to learn, as we all are.
Hmm you have to turn the tables trent make it seem like she has to win your favor again. I guess give her another shot but like someone said above if he really wanted to see a chick he would , hell I would pound a redbull and make it happen. I have flaked on girls after a long day without even calling. I work in a field where from time to time I can not be reached and is very secure so they can not question it. Just put her on the short list,
How did the reschedule conversation go?
Was she the one saying let me make it up to you on sunday or did you recomend sunday? Did she offer to pay or say anything to show you are valuable or important??
How did the reschedule conversation go?
Was she the one saying let me make it up to you on sunday or did you recomend sunday? Did she offer to pay or say anything to show you are valuable or important??
Ill take the rain check for bbq, but my days of doing lines are over.
As far as you being emotional, that should be your first priority to work on. Women can smell emotional roller coaster guy from a mile away, and they run the opposite direction.
My personal suggestion to you as a first step, is quit snorting baby powder all together.
As far as you being emotional, that should be your first priority to work on. Women can smell emotional roller coaster guy from a mile away, and they run the opposite direction.
My personal suggestion to you as a first step, is quit snorting baby powder all together.
Went out with her and had a great date. I think she's really into me. She texted me after the date and said she had a great time....etc.....I said I did as well and that I was looking forward to seeing her and said I'll talk to you soon. So, now my question is..........Should I contact her today (the date was last night) or should I wait till at least tomorrow. This is the part I fuvk up always. By the way, when I asked her why she flaked she said "I just didn't want you to see me tired and sick that night. I wouldn't have had fun and neither would you." So don't let them cancelling on you discourage you guys. I was very discouraged but gave her the benefit of the doubt like some of you mentioned. WHEN DO I CONTACT HER AGAIN?
This guy is real good. Wanna do some lines with this cat........Deniska said:Here is the thing, no matter what she has told you, what matters is how she said it to you that she is sick. A persons voice, even on the phone tells the truth, even if shes BS'ing that she is sick and tired.
A lot of guys will say to move on and that she is a flake. But how many of those guys know for a fact that she is sick? None!
Give her the benefit of the doubt. If she continues to give you excuses then you move on.
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.