i'm desprate and i really need help

[no.name10452]

Well i was with that girl since 1 year and a half, and everything was totally great, i loved her and she loved me too, and we went crazy about each other, i fight everyone to be with her, and she did the same when she faced her father. our relationship was the best and everyone was jealous coz we were so great together, she met all my familly members and i did too, we were about to got engaged on the coming new years eve.

well sudenly out of nowhere, she said that she is not feeling happy and went into a really big depression, she stayed like 4 days in her room not talking to anyone, and she asked me for a little time alone, so i gave it to her, after 4 days of none talk, neither sms nothing, i called her and asked her to go out so we can discuss what happening between us, well she agreed and we went out, and when i asked her she said that her feelings toward me has changed.
i tried everything to know the real reason, but she always said: routine, and she felt like i was not always next to her (which i totally disagree coz i was in her back in every step she made).
i tried to tell her that maybe its a period of time and everything will get back to normal, and we have to give our relationship a second chance to make it better than it was.

2 days passed, and we barely spoke together. only whatsapp from time to time, so i went to her house and we spoke again but this time everything was different:

1- her phone was left in another room
2- she was totally confused

so i tried to make sence of whats happening with her, she said that she is not happy with me.
in the meanwhile i knew from her relative that she was talking with a friend (guy) on whatsapp all the time, so i added his number to my list and i spent two days spying on them, and the result was:
- always online together
- always last seen at the same time
- always online in a very late time after midnight.

so i came back to her house and i faced her with these info, so she went totally crazy and she said that she is not a ***** to speak with another guy while she is with me, and that this guy is only a friend. we yelled at each other and i walked out her door.

after 2 days i realized that maybe i was wrong, so i wrote her a sorry letter and sent through facebook and Gmail, but unfortunatly without reply.
i tried to call, she never answered
i tried whatsapp messages, same same no answer.

now its been a week since last time i tried to contact her, and i know 100% that she is still speaking with this guy. and when i asked about him, everyone who knows him said that he is a really bad guy and totally creep, he was married and got divorced, he always hit his wife, and he is a big lier.

Maybe my girlfriend would not accept to speak with me anymore, but i want her to stay out of his way, coz im afraid she will regret this friendship/relationship whatever you want to call it.

please try to help me, what can i do to win her friendship back, and how can i make her dump this guy coz he is not right for her, but he is trying his best to show her that he is a good guy.

PS: please try to put yourself in my shoes, i really love this girl and i wanted her to be my wife and she was so sure about that as well as the mother of my kids. i trully love her, but everything changed since she met this guy, and our life has been ruined

Im 28 years old, she is 22 years old and that guy is 29 years old

Please help

 

[doctorj]

go no contact, the best revenge is to let her be with him and if he's as bad as you say he is, she'd really regret being with his sorry a$$

 

[betheman]

bradd80 has nailed it! read his advice and digest it. absolutely no good will come of you trying to contact her or get back with her. she has shown her true colours, be thankful its happened now and not when you have a couple of kids and married

 

[Big Nuts]

Whenever a woman breaks up with you, essentially she is saying to you “I think I can do better than you”.

You can't do anything to make her want to come back. In fact, you can only do stuff to make her not want to come back.

If she doesn’t feel attraction, there’s nothing you can do about it.
If she does feel attraction, there’s nothing she can do about it.

/more Coles notes.

 

[backseatjuan]

Here is a piece of advice to you. Buy some vodka, or whiskey, or whatever hard lacquer you prefer, and drink it today. Tomorrow go meet women, and this time don't sick a relationship, seek sexual encounters. Act like you don't give a damn if she walks away or stays.

One more thing, you have to be sexually charged when you meet women, like you want to f'ck. Best way is to stop wanking and start looking at women as sexual objects. Like you look at girl you think is hot and you want to f'ck her. They notice that.

 

[pinkfl]

You need to break things off and move on.
I'm really sorry, I believe that you did at one point have a very healthy relationship

However, she is young, and therefore stupid. She doesn't know what she wants for the rest of her life and she is getting New ideas from this other guy. It's not just talking if she is acting this way, when she is spending all those days alone she is trying to weigh her options and imagine her life without you.

I am very sorry, but do the right thing, break up with her and start the healing process. Don't respond to her after you have broken things off, just try to heal.

One day, several years from now, she will realise her mistake.

 

[switch]

Tomorrow go meet women, and this time don't sick a relationship, seek sexual encounters. Act like you don't give a damn if she walks away or stays.

One more thing, you have to be sexually charged when you meet women, like you want to f'ck. Best way is to stop wanking and start looking at women as sexual objects. Like you look at girl you think is hot and you want to f'ck her. They notice that.

best advice hands down.
dear OP , i think you are asian.....indian or filipina? i take it as filipina
anyway look man,girls are just a crack, and that's it really. you lost this hole?
dont worry you'll find another one real soon bro.
she is fvcking a new guy, you should also fvck a new girl.
also never fight for a girl, i mean come on that's AFC sh!t, you are a man,so grow some balls.

the girl has to fight for you,and do you wanna know how that happens? read the dj bible.

your social circle is fvcked bcuz of her, you disrespected your parents,went against your friends,sacrificed your job, education....
how did she repay your sacrifice and kindness huh? she went and cheated with a good for nothing a$shole.
she showed she is a cheating wh0re.

do you really love her or are you just scared of being alone and single?? if its fear of being alone then you know you dont love her anymore

stop, STOP, enough of her.the damage stops here.just think she doesnt exist for a while....for 4 days...all im asking is 4 fvcking days without thinking about her,im sure you will feel happier if not ecstatic.

please detach yourself from this girl. im writing with a crippled hand in my bed, sedated and sh!t, i only responded to you because i felt the same pain before. OH LOOK i even wrote the word "love" although i had to vomit in my bed pan afterwards
hope you the best man.godspeed