I'm depressed and I don't know why?

[inzone50]

I have realized over the past few months I have become depressed. Some times a lil hot tempered or angry from it or bored its hard to explian it. Sometimes jealous. Think numb. I don't know why i feel this way.

I mean I have a good job.
I moving up in my career.. looking very promising
I am good with my money situation
Okay with family
I have a good car
I workout and am in good shape
I am okay in the women department.

The only critique i can see is that i don't have any male friends that i hang out with. Lots of people i know though. I'm just not social I enjoy my own company better.

But why do i feel depressed? I feel this is really bringing me down.

 

[inzone50]

Even my sports team is doing good.
I feel like i'm becoming boring..

 

[Interceptor]

What are your Goals in life?

What is your Mission in Life?

What are you doing right now to further yourself, and accomplishing your Goals and Mission?

Being depressed is a sgin that you are stressing and feeling anxiious about something you often cannot control (external factors) , and are not aware that you CAN control yourself, your emotions and your PERSPECTIVE (internal factors) .


Loneliness happens when we don't know our true self worth, are misguided with our focus and attention, and have not learned how to Love ourSELVES and be our own best friend.

If you are angry, it may be because you do not have what you want in life yet or are not ACCOMPLISHING your GOALS.
If you are Jealous, it is because you resent what other people have, and you don't.
Since you cannot understand the reason why YOU "failed" you may have put the blame on others and then perhaps resent them for their oiwn happiness and success.

You can achieve the same thing , even better.

Here's something to understand, whenever you have a feeling 'that you can't describe" or "can't 'put your finger on it' or is hazy and vague.........

It is all about your Personal Boundary.

More likely..the 'holes' in your Personal Boundary.

 

[CORVETTE06]

im depressed too

i got a good job, got friends, good w/ $ , but i dont have a gf

i want a gf , but i dont and thats why im depressed.

 

[inzone50]

What are your Goals in life?

What is your Mission in Life?

What are you doing right now to further yourself, and accomplishing your Goals and Mission?

Being depressed is a sgin that you are stressing and feeling anxiious about something you often cannot control (external factors) , and are not aware that you CAN control yourself, your emotions and your PERSPECTIVE (internal factors) .


Loneliness happens when we don't know our true self worth, are misguided with our focus and attention, and have not learned how to Love ourSELVEs and be our own best friend.

Open my own Real Estate company. Deal with commercial Real Estate.

What am I doing about it? I'm getting my real estate license.

I'm doing all I really can do accomplish my goals... its taking its time but I am moving towards it as fast as i can.

I agree i do get angry when i see what other people have and i don't yet.

 

[duke007]

Are you PASSIONATE about your job, and passionate about the women you are seeing?

I thought I was happy in my chosen career and even started up my own freelancing business - but I've slowly realised my passion for this line of work has fallen from moderate to weak to non-existent. Same goes with women - if you have some shallow f*ck buddies it may not be satisfying enough for you.

Bottom line is, think about what you're passionate about in life, and pursue it.
A long holiday might help too.

 

[Stéphane]

Well, speaking from experience I use to be really depressed when I was younger, and depression can just happen out of the blue. You don't really need a reason to be depressed it's just a chemical imbalanced in your brain, go and see your family doctor to prescribe some meds.

 

[Interceptor]

im depressed too

i got a good job, got friends, good w/ $ , but i dont have a gf

i want a gf , but i dont and thats why im depressed.

Because you are putting your happiness on an external factor.
This is a very very very VERY bad place to be in.

A girl will not 'make you happy".

You must learn how to be independent.
And not base your happiness on a female, or ANYTHING external.

You must learn how to be happy with yourself, with or without a GF.

When you do you will not be needy, clingy, obsessive, and constantly NEED her support and reasurrance.



You have a very very dark future ahead of you if you think this way.

 

[inzone50]

Are you PASSIONATE about your job, and passionate about the women you are seeing?

I thought I was happy in my chosen career and even started up my own freelancing business - but I've slowly realised my passion for this line of work has fallen from moderate to weak to non-existent. Same goes with women - if you have some shallow f*ck buddies it may not be satisfying enough for you.

Bottom line is, think about what you're passionate about in life, and pursue it.
A long holiday might help too.

I'm 100% with the women i want. defiantly in the career that i want.

 

[inzone50]

Well, speaking from experience I use to be really depressed when I was younger, and depression can just happen out of the blue. You don't really need a reason to be depressed it's just a chemical imbalanced in your brain, go and see your family doctor to prescribe some meds.

I won't take drugs for it so that rules it out by i agree it may be a health thing.

 

[Interceptor]

Open my own Real Estate company. Deal with commercial Real Estate.

What am I doing about it? I'm getting my real estate license.

I'm doing all I really can do accomplish my goals... its taking its time but I am moving towards it as fast as i can.

I agree i do get angry when i see what other people have and i don't yet.

This is good.

But you are still not APPRECIATING it. And you are not allowing yourself TIME and space to accomplsh it.

Stand back , use Observing Ego and get a good perspective on yourself andyour life.


Feel good that you are working towards your Goals....

APPRECIATE it.

APPRECIATE YOUR SELF.


Be a little more lenient with yourself. It takes time to accomplish your goals.
Be more self reflective, and learn the are of appreciation. Learn gratitude.


And you must put your focus on it.

BUt sometimes SLOW and STEADY is the "FASTEST" way.

I know what I'm tellling you , brother.
I know what I'm telling you.........

 

[inzone50]

This is good.

But you are still not APPRECIATING it. And you are not allowing yourself TIME and space to accomplsh it.

Stand back , use Observing Ego and get a good perspective on yourself andyour life.


Feel good that you are working towards your Goals....

APPRECIATE it.

APPRECIATE YOUR SELF.


Be a little more lenient with yourself. It takes time to accomplish your goals.
Be more self reflective, and learn the are of appreciation. Learn gratitude.


And you must put your focus on it.

BUt sometimes SLOW and STEADY is the "FASTEST" way.

I know what I'm tellling you , brother.
I know what I'm telling you.........

I have a problem appreciating it. I mean i understand how good i have it, and i haven't alway had it this good. So its not that i'm taking it for granted.

 

[Stéphane]

I won't take drugs for it so that rules it out by i agree it may be a health thing.

Well, if you won't take drugs then nothing will fix it. Either deal with it or fix it.

 

[MooseGod]

Fvck taking drugs for it. It's a natural human state sometimes. Are you eating right and getting enough exercise? Are you sleeping enough?

 

[Pimp101]

My mum has a good saying - happiness is the way. Its not a destination or a goal or an achievement. What makes a person happy is the journey. Are you happy when you work towards your goals? Another way to put this is that say you achieve what you want, so what then? That success only lasts a moment so how are you going to be happy after its done? Sure you could set another goal but then you'll be depressed until thats achieved too. You could constantly reminisce on the achievement but then you're living in the past. Its the moment, what you do right now that can KEEP you happy.

 

[MooseGod]

^ You make a great point. I've come to realize this about myself--whatever I want, I usually go get. Then I don't want it anymore because I'm bored with it. America's big on the idea of the pursuit of happiness....well the happiness IS the pursuit.

 

[Stéphane]

You guys don't get it been depressed, and unhappy are two different things. I've felt both, and the only thing that will help are drugs.

 

[penkitten]

are you listening to depressing music?
music can seriously affect your moods.

 

[inzone50]

are you listening to depressing music?
music can seriously affect your moods.

radio.. hip hop mostly..

not really.

 

[reset]

Be a little more lenient with yourself. It takes time to accomplish your goals.
Be more self reflective, and learn the are of appreciation. Learn gratitude.

And you must put your focus on it.

BUt sometimes SLOW and STEADY is the "FASTEST" way.

Rebuilding takes time. But the decision to rebuild in itself is the fulfillment of the first major goal.

I think we can get too far ahead of ourselves and beat ourselves up when we don't have everything we want. You can't get the stuff you want until you're the type of person who can handle the stuff you want and that doesn't happen overnight. Something I know I need to stay conscious of.