"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm confused. why wait X days to text / call a girl

Packers2010

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I've seen a few post ad had a few people tell me I should be waiting up to 4 days to text or call...

To be honest i don't really see the point. Why prelong something that doesn't need to be prelonged. If you are a alpha ( for lack of a better word) and she has a high IL then I don't see the point waiting 4 days. 4 days is a long time in ANYTHING. way too much **** can happen.

so why not " strike while the iron is hot?"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I too struggle between wanting to strike whilst the irons hot and delay..

The reason to delay i think, is to make her wonder whether you are going to call, the less time and attention you give her, the more she values it when you do.

I find it so hard not to just throw myself into something when it feels right, but i got burned once and once is enough, so think of it as a way of protecting your heart too.
 

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If a girl has "high interest" in you, waiting 4-7 days gives her an opportunity to think and wonder about you. If she forgets about you after a week, then she didn't have high interest initially. Also, it gives her a chance to chase. For example:

I was at a party on Friday, and I had a great conversation with a beautiful girl for about an hour. It was getting late so I told her I had to leave. We hugged and exchanged numbers. Instead of texting her the next day, like most guys do, I waited. Sure enough, SHE texted ME on Monday so I took the opportunity to set up a date.

If you play your cards right, beautiful women will chase YOU. They are looking for alpha males and we are an extremely rare breed.

BTW, feel free to use your better judgement. I rarely break the 4-7 day rule, but I frequently break the 3-second rule. In the end, it's all about finding something that feels right and works for you.
 
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