Im confused over this...

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Twice I've been rejected by girls who've spent time and gave mad signals to me only for them to move away when I move in for a kiss.

The first time was when I finished work and rang this girl up and she said she's keen to see me. This was like at 4-5am. So we hung out and I moved in to her personal space. I was sitting next to her. I then had my arm next to her then moved my hand so i have it around her. Then I directed her to which she ended up face to face to me. From there we were pretty much holding each other. But when I moved in for a kiss she back off but was still holding each other...She said I could keep trying but it will never happen...WTF??? I tried the whole smelling her neck and playing with her hair to try get her in the mood but to no avail. I kept on tryin to kiss her but no luck. Her reason? She says she don't just kiss guys like that and that because I was a player (pfft far from it...yet)

Now back to tonight, a different girl this time...I met her on the bus home and found out shes an american chik from my new college. So I chatted to her and we sorted clicked very well. I came over to her place cos she said she was going to get food to eat over my place. So after that we took off to my place which is just a few mins walk. So we hung out then decided to see the sunrise. Then we sat down on a mound (lol) and her back was against between my legs...So that was perfect postion to lay some kino on her there. We held hands and stuff so I thought this is a perfect way to move in for a kiss BUT bang....she pulled out with taking her hands off or gettin up to go. I kept my cool and she said that her and her friend was DOCUMENTING aussie guys and how they are aggressive...WTF again. So we walked around tried to get a better view of the sunrise. We were holdin hands the whole way around I still tried to lay a kiss on her but to no avail as well. She was suggestin we go this way and that way (this was ona nature walk after we both got back from clubbing) So we parted ways and no doubt Ill see her around again but I need to know what Ill have to do.

So what the hell is the issue here...I dont get it. I keep my cool but still to no avail. Am I doin anything or could you guys point out something that warrants this time of outcome?

Any kind of help would be AWESOME!!!

 

[BuckwildNYC]

Two words....................... EYE CONTACT

I find that before a first kiss you need some serious eye contact. You have to give her the bedroom eyes with a half sexy smirk. If she she responds with the same look then she is ready for kissing. If her eyes are darting around or she keeps looking away then she's not ready. It doesn''t necessarily mean that she doesn't like you but you haven't made her comfortable enough with you. Of course there is always the possibilty that she will never want to kiss you but I'm sure if that's the case she'll let you know. (like the first girl did)

 

[flexion_]

Sounds like you are just rushing things.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

Originally posted by flexion_
Sounds like you are just rushing things.

Could be that too

 

[Ace of Flames]

so u barely met these girls and you're trying to kiss them? i mean, there's nothing wrong with that, but its not exactly the easiest thing to do. you werent in a club/party environment, which with this kinda thing. i agree with the other guy, you were probably just rushing it. i think these girls were just enjoying being with you for the first time, and you're going about the kiss in a way that usually leads to sex. you probably freaked the girls out. "i barely know this guy!" is what flashed in their heads, and thats what stopped them.

just give it time, take it a little slower.

 

[napoleon]

I dont know maybe you were too friendly, so you got a little LJBFd?

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Things are more settled down and I can finally think a bit more clearly.

The first girl I used to work with and we hung out a few times previously. Shes a new girl in town and I think she wants to see how she fares up with boys and I was a testing subject to see if she could pull me in. She thinks I'm a player but I think she gets intimidated because she would like to be more in power as she has a lot of guys all over her.

The other girl I met on the bus home. She wanted to come over my place up until 6 in the morning. My friends (theyre both highly experienced) told me that I "overcooked" her and let her get cold until I made a move. I mean if the girl comes over the its fair game right?

I was laying some heavy kino on both girls and they both even gave kino back. So I found it very weird to why it didn't work out.

A few things I've noticed is that I can pick up if I act very quickly/ I've done 10-30 minute pick ups but if I let things get cold and not make a heavy move within an hour.....then all is wasted.