Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm concluding that getting a text after meet-up is a false IOI

teddy

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I'm starting to figure out that getting one of those texts from a chick after a meetup where she says she has a great time/had so much fun/smiley smiley doesn't actually mean a whole lot.

The last 2 chicks that did this to me I never actually saw again.

And one of them was OBSESSED with :) :) :) :) :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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VladPatton

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I don't believe in IOI's anymore because of shıt like that. Texting is too easy to fake. Way too easy!

You want real IOI's?

Answer: Consistent dates, a pleasant, fun time, getting sex, and overall a great relationship without much craziness, power struggling and confusion.

Anything else should be questioned and be pointed towards Nexting.
 

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VladPatton said:
You want real IOI's?

Answer: Consistent dates, a pleasant, fun time, getting sex, and overall a great relationship without much craziness, power struggling and confusion.
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You better make sure you're getting the sex with it, otherwise you can get the first 2, think they're IOIs, and then find yourself in the friend zone.
 

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VladPatton said:
I don't believe in IOI's anymore because of shıt like that. Texting is too easy to fake. Way too easy!

You want real IOI's?

Answer: Consistent dates, a pleasant, fun time, getting sex, and overall a great relationship without much craziness, power struggling and confusion.

Anything else should be questioned and be pointed towards Nexting.
This so much. My friends fall for this fake IOI shvt all the time and I warn them about it. Yet, they can't handle the truth and get owned lol. The only IOI's I consider are what vlad posted.
 

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I met up a very pretty woman..chatted for about 15 minutes.....just randomly on my way to the bank. I helped her get a cab....I got her to give me her number. When the cab showed up, she gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek....I was surprised by this hug so I felt awesome. So the next day, I had some drinks and decided to call her just for the sake of it. Asked if she made it home safely, blah blah... Then she starts throwing out date ideas....like asking me if I'm busy this weekend, telling me she's free on mondays....obviously I told her I had plans already for new years but.....long story short....is having a girl answer ur call and actually maintain a purposeful conversation a true IOI? I'm not so sure....I guess it depends on the girl, and you will only know that she digs you after the sex. That's pretty much the rule.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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_sideways_ said:
I met up a very pretty woman..chatted for about 15 minutes.....just randomly on my way to the bank. I helped her get a cab....I got her to give me her number. When the cab showed up, she gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek....I was surprised by this hug so I felt awesome. So the next day, I had some drinks and decided to call her just for the sake of it. Asked if she made it home safely, blah blah... Then she starts throwing out date ideas....like asking me if I'm busy this weekend, telling me she's free on mondays....obviously I told her I had plans already for new years but.....long story short....is having a girl answer ur call and actually maintain a purposeful conversation a true IOI? I'm not so sure....I guess it depends on the girl, and you will only know that she digs you after the sex. That's pretty much the rule.
That's a great IOI, sure. But never take one IOI as golden. Let them culminate one by one until you actually start dating, banging, etc. it really is very simple. Think of each one as a click towards being pointed to your destination. One IOI shouldn't make you think you're George Clooney!
 

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If you want to be pro at reading IOS, start learning body language and micro expressions. Micro expressions are very quick movements of the mouth and eyes that communicate specific emotions. People can hide their feelings, but it's damn near impossible to hide micro expression, as they happen so quick and subconsciously.

On the most basic level you'll be able to pick up her mood and interest in the current situation. At an advanced level you'll be able to know (with near certainty) when she is lying and how she REALLY is feeling, emotionally, during conversations.

These are the same tactics police officers, FBI, etc, use to detect lies and it's also why poker players wear glasses to hide their eyes.

Pay enough attention, and practice. Eventually you'll pick up on it without even thinking about it. You'll be aware of someones true feelings towards you simply by "reading" them.
In some ways it's a curse, because you don't always want to know, but you can't help it.

Women are much better at lying than men, and it's harder to get a read on them, and there are a lot of reasons why that is.
Mostly it has to do with HOW they lie, but I won't go into it unless someone really wants to know.
 

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^ this.....Bro.....will you take me as ur pupil lol jk....but its true. Pm me on how they lie. I think once dudes get their princess is where they stop, not realizing there's an ocean of hammer heads waiting to please you.
 

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Starfvcks 64 said:
If you want to be pro at reading IOS, start learning body language and micro expressions. Micro expressions are very quick movements of the mouth and eyes that communicate specific emotions. People can hide their feelings, but it's damn near impossible to hide micro expression, as they happen so quick and subconsciously.

On the most basic level you'll be able to pick up her mood and interest in the current situation. At an advanced level you'll be able to know (with near certainty) when she is lying and how she REALLY is feeling, emotionally, during conversations.

These are the same tactics police officers, FBI, etc, use to detect lies and it's also why poker players wear glasses to hide their eyes.

Pay enough attention, and practice. Eventually you'll pick up on it without even thinking about it. You'll be aware of someones true feelings towards you simply by "reading" them.
In some ways it's a curse, because you don't always want to know, but you can't help it.

Women are much better at lying than men, and it's harder to get a read on them, and there are a lot of reasons why that is.
Mostly it has to do with HOW they lie, but I won't go into it unless someone really wants to know.
Yea, I would like to know please expand on this topic.
 

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Starfvcks 64 said:
If you want to be pro at reading IOS, start learning body language and micro expressions. Micro expressions are very quick movements of the mouth and eyes that communicate specific emotions. People can hide their feelings, but it's damn near impossible to hide micro expression, as they happen so quick and subconsciously.

On the most basic level you'll be able to pick up her mood and interest in the current situation. At an advanced level you'll be able to know (with near certainty) when she is lying and how she REALLY is feeling, emotionally, during conversations.

These are the same tactics police officers, FBI, etc, use to detect lies and it's also why poker players wear glasses to hide their eyes.

Pay enough attention, and practice. Eventually you'll pick up on it without even thinking about it. You'll be aware of someones true feelings towards you simply by "reading" them.
In some ways it's a curse, because you don't always want to know, but you can't help it.

Women are much better at lying than men, and it's harder to get a read on them, and there are a lot of reasons why that is.
Mostly it has to do with HOW they lie, but I won't go into it unless someone really wants to know.
Post it. I really want to know.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I really would like to hear this too
 

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I'm about to head out for New Years, and instead of typing something quick i'd rather wait and put a lot of thought into it.

Read up on micro expressions to understand the basics. I'm sure there are good youtube vids with examples.

Women are harder to read because they lie differently. It seems like they lie almost out of habit, on auto pilot. They know what they need to say, so they say it without thinking. They give their "tells" after, when most people give it before and during.
 

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Bump for the microexpressions tips.

It would be awesome to have a post on them!
 
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