"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm completely lost...

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So heres my situation. I started a thread about 4 weeks ago about finally SEALING THE DEAL with the girl who've I've wanted for 3 years of my life. We go to the same school and hang with the same people, and for the past 3 years we've hooked up randomly (like once or twice a month). No sex, but everything else. This past spring break (about a month ago), we were in Mexico and on the last night she begged me to go back with her to her room and I did. Finally went all the way and it was AMAZING. Since then we've been hooking up and talking pretty regularly which leads me to this thread...

I don't know how I should escalate this. Like I said I've REALLY liked this girl for the past 3 years and am extremely happy to see my persistance finally pay off, however its a delicate situation because her group of girl friends and my group of guy friends hang out ALL THE TIME. On top of that, this has been a HUGE LONG process so I feel like I need to do this slowly and methodically.

With that being said, I don't want to push this too hard on her so I want to "just roll with it" and see where it goes, however I want to help the direction toward becoming something serious.

What do you guys feel is a good plan of action for me to accomplish this. So far I have this: Next time she spends the night, when we wake up in the morning see if she wants to get some breakfast (instant-date), or just hang out for a little.

I know theres definitely a better way to approach this but for whatever reason, I can't figure it out and thats where you guys come in. Thanks in advance!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Iceberg said:
Haha.

"Yeah umm. I didn't like these answers. Could someone tell me to do the stuff I've already been doing? That way I don't have to change anything."
:rolleyes:

well he didnt seem to have done anything wrong...
thats y im asking , most people re ask as they dont like the first answers
 
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