A little background info:
I had HORRIBLE social anxiety and depression, etc. up to a couple of years ago. No experience with girls, etc. I'm like a totally different person now (I've had several instances where people I haven't seen in a few years literally haven't recognized me) and about a year ago met a great girl on a dating site.
She's my first real girlfriend and the best looking girl I've been with so far (not great looking but attractive) things have been great and I love her and all that, but I'm getting bored with her. I've been becoming aware of this more and more especially the last couple of months. When we first started dating, if we hadn't seen each other in a few days it was really exciting and we had great sex and everything. We were in separate parts of the country over the summer and she came to visit me and I remember picking her up at the airport and not really feeling that excited to see her. Summer just ended and I just got back in town and again wasn't really excited to see her even though I hadn't seen her in over a month.
I'm also getting a bit bored with the sex, to the point where I've started to avoid having sex with her a little. Today she IMd me saying she was horny, and before I would have told her to come over, but instead I made up some excuses about being too busy with stuff. I don't really feel that nervous/exciting feeling during sex with her anymore, I feel like it's always the same thing and I'm just bored with it.
It's not that I'm bored with sex in general because I still get excited when I think about having sex with other girls, and I feel bad about this but even now when we have sex I fantasize about being with someone else. I've also noticed that lately it's been taking a really long time for me to orgasm because I'm just not that excited while we're ****ing.
My last year of college just started, I feel more confident and happy with myself than ever, I have great roommates and a small circle of friends now. I really want to make this a good year and have a lot of fun since I missed out on so much in my life, and everywhere I look I see all these beautiful girls and feel incredibly attracted to them, and feel like I've "leveled up" to a point where I'm actually in a position to meet some very attractive girls instead of relying on the internet to meet average girls like I've been doing up to this point.
On the other hand, my girlfriend's interest level is still very high, she always initiates contact and everything. I do love her, and I like cuddling with her and all that ****, I just don't feel those feelings of lust and excitement anymore. I also know that breaking up with her would really devastate her, plus she just started her program in college with harder classes and everything and I feel like breaking up with her now would make her lose focus there.
Right now I guess I only have 3 options; stay with her, stay with her and cheat on her with other girls, or break up with her. I just don't know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation?
I had HORRIBLE social anxiety and depression, etc. up to a couple of years ago. No experience with girls, etc. I'm like a totally different person now (I've had several instances where people I haven't seen in a few years literally haven't recognized me) and about a year ago met a great girl on a dating site.
She's my first real girlfriend and the best looking girl I've been with so far (not great looking but attractive) things have been great and I love her and all that, but I'm getting bored with her. I've been becoming aware of this more and more especially the last couple of months. When we first started dating, if we hadn't seen each other in a few days it was really exciting and we had great sex and everything. We were in separate parts of the country over the summer and she came to visit me and I remember picking her up at the airport and not really feeling that excited to see her. Summer just ended and I just got back in town and again wasn't really excited to see her even though I hadn't seen her in over a month.
I'm also getting a bit bored with the sex, to the point where I've started to avoid having sex with her a little. Today she IMd me saying she was horny, and before I would have told her to come over, but instead I made up some excuses about being too busy with stuff. I don't really feel that nervous/exciting feeling during sex with her anymore, I feel like it's always the same thing and I'm just bored with it.
It's not that I'm bored with sex in general because I still get excited when I think about having sex with other girls, and I feel bad about this but even now when we have sex I fantasize about being with someone else. I've also noticed that lately it's been taking a really long time for me to orgasm because I'm just not that excited while we're ****ing.
My last year of college just started, I feel more confident and happy with myself than ever, I have great roommates and a small circle of friends now. I really want to make this a good year and have a lot of fun since I missed out on so much in my life, and everywhere I look I see all these beautiful girls and feel incredibly attracted to them, and feel like I've "leveled up" to a point where I'm actually in a position to meet some very attractive girls instead of relying on the internet to meet average girls like I've been doing up to this point.
On the other hand, my girlfriend's interest level is still very high, she always initiates contact and everything. I do love her, and I like cuddling with her and all that ****, I just don't feel those feelings of lust and excitement anymore. I also know that breaking up with her would really devastate her, plus she just started her program in college with harder classes and everything and I feel like breaking up with her now would make her lose focus there.
Right now I guess I only have 3 options; stay with her, stay with her and cheat on her with other girls, or break up with her. I just don't know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation?
I dug the effort on her end so that helped the somewhat boring aspect of the sex. 
