"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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IM BACK...still a virgin

Nino-Tk

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holla fellow don juans...lol what can i say? It seems like yesterday when i declared that I would never come back here untill i lost my virginity..erm that was way back before the World cup by the way.And before you guys blast me..*bows head in shame*..ja i was wrong,i put way too much importance on women..my mindset was backwards..i admit..but that drastic action did kinda work,im currently in a bad relationship,and i want to leave the girl,thing is i want to lay her first..so do you guys think i should stick it out till i lay her or move on to a new girl?or just..i dont know what
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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CarlitosWay

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Yeah if you don't really care about the outcome. If anything it could wreck her as to some women it's a pretty big thing to have sex with a guy. Then to leave her after that . Just saying she's probably going to hate you later lol
 

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CarlitosWay said:
Yeah if you don't really care about the outcome. If anything it could wreck her as to some women it's a pretty big thing to have sex with a guy. Then to leave her after that . Just saying she's probably going to hate you later lol
CarlitosWay, if you're in Ann Arbor, wear Ohio State Buckeyes clothes and flirt with women who got Micigan Wolverines gear on. Great ice breaker! Especially in November!

But OP, you left this forum and went to Pedestal Mart! Bad place to shop.

**Shakes head in disapproval**

I should tell you that you don't have a high market value if you haven't laid this girl yet. Why don't you just move on cuz this girl doesn't see you as a sexual being. You might not be what she wants physically.

Time to render my verdict.

Judge nismo is gonna order you to move on. This is gonna help you more than hurt you. BUT, go with this girl around a bunch of other girls and get a few #'s. You can do this easily as long as you have at least ONE girl, so act now before dumping her.

Case closed.
 

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Nino-Tk said:
im currently in a bad relationship,and i want to leave the girl,thing is i want to lay her first..so do you guys think i should stick it out till i lay her or move on to a new girl?or just..i dont know what

My problem with you isn't your virginity. It'll happen when it happens.

But the problem is, how are you in a "relationship" if there's no sex? That's just ridiculous. Drop that girl like a bad habit. Hell, the only thing that makes a "bad relationship" tolerable is good sex. How you're doing this without getting sex is unfathomable.

Should you stay with her until you get sex? No. Because if she were going to give you sex, it would have happened before you started calling it a "relationship." This girl is lame. And you're angering me.

Nino-Tk said:
lol ah well ima leave her. And to think that our anniversary is on the 9th of August..what timing!
Anniversary? Please tell me that you're not one of these guys who celebrates monthly anniversaries.

And on the other side, please don't tell me that you've dated this girl for almost a year without getting sex.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Warrior74

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Honestly, I was a virgin until I was 19. Listen, if you aren't happy in your relationship, leave. Find a girl you really like and lose your V card with her. Or find a girl who's willing to put out and get with her. Or focus on your grades and education and finances. Because those are way more important in life than women, especially a woman you don't want to be with.

Why are you in a bad relationship? What makes it bad? Learn this lesson now while you are young. Don't stick with a woman you don't like just for sex. That is always a bad move. Trust me.
 

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If your current relationship status is no good, then get rid of her and just charge forward. If anything, it will raise her interest and you can always go back and tap it later if you play your cards right. If not, then just be happy you saved yourself from a lot of unwasted energy and grief. This girl is just toying with you. Once the sex stops or they are trying to make you work for it then something has gone terribly wrong. You either need to reframe or bail. My suggestion would just be to next and start over with a new plate with the right frame from the very start.
 

Nino-Tk

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Well the relationship is bad because im putting in way more effort than she is and that is really not cool, it is frustrating infact.Today was a good day though, i managed to get 2 digits, i will see what happens from there..and i just ended my crappy relationship..no more of that sappy ish for me. Thanks guys!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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