I'm back. But not really, gave up.

[LuckyStrike88]

3/4 years on this stuff, almost daily. Without it, probably wouldn't have had the kind girls and pleasure I've had since i started.

Just speaking my mind from this part on. I think what happened is that i got involved with girls i was shocked to get together with and have sex with. Such hot beautiful and fun girls. I do have a sensitive side that comes out when i get to the point of idealization that is almost impossible for me to shake off. It happens every time, and it ****s me over in the end. No matter what i know or have learned.

It has led me to having but then losing the greatest girls in my area. I have done everything i could so it feels. And i have worked this puppy ****... but the feeling of idealization just gets to me and i can't seem to shake it. I want to be with her instead of the guys, i have put those specific girls before my family, my best friends. I know it is wrong of course, but that's the feeling i get that i cannot seem to shake no matter what i do or learn.

Right now, it has been a streak of losing great girls. And one in particular that i was just friends with and that was enough. I didn't even want more so i wouldn't risk losing her. And still i did, though i was the one who ended it and blocked her. But i had no ****ing choice, i would have lost all my respect of my family and friends if i forgave her for what she did. So i did, i broke with her. And for good reason.

But right now i am in a place of giving this, what you all are talking about here UP. And just focusing on my career, and it is going great. But i have given up everything(everyone) beside that aside from a few friends i sometimes see in the weekends.

And i'm just sitting at home after work, not knowing what to do. I could make up with my (girl)friend and hang out with her like i used to but it's impossible, she's gone too far.

I am not in a specifically bad place, i have a great career. And it is going really well. But socially, and concerning girls it's Zero.

As the title said i gave up. It does really feel like that after all those years of putting my face to the grindstone and trying stuff, reading stuff. Even getting great results i wouldn't ever have imagined.

I'm just wondering if there is someone experienced out there that can help me out with this situation. Because i wish i could continue to work on this subject, and i don't feel like i can anymore.

 

[pyros]

well, I can relate.

Some years ago, before I found 'game' I had no fvcking clue about women, so I had zero results but I was used to it lol.

After reading about 'game', finding this forum etc...I approached a lot of girls (on FB, in clubs, in the streets a few times, in social events, online...) I got hundreds of rejections, a few flakes etc, but hey, I banged a several girls as well. Before this I only got my former gf.

So in retrospective I got "results", but the amount of effort I had to put was, and has been until this day too much, so everytime I find some dude with a pretty gf I get kind of envious and wonder if he had to put that much effort, or if he got her by chance, so this makes me feel like I am alone in this situation. It makes me think that every other guy gets his dream girl just because, except me LOL.
Besides, I wonder if the majority of guys I know have read about Game which I doubt.

So yeah, it gets frustrating and boring. It seems like and uphill battle most of the time.

Since I started reading about game, I tried to increase my muscle mass, I learnt how to dance, I became more social, approached more, read a ton about Pickup...etc etc..but not as many results as I'd wish.

I've had two breaks from picking up chicks cause I got fed up.

It seems other guys dont struggle to get chicks they like. Weird.

The most annoying thing about this is that if you do nothing, you get zero results, that's for sure. So I cant find a ...'solution' to this problem.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

well, I can relate.

Some years ago, before I found 'game' I had no fvcking clue about women, so I had zero results but I was used to it lol.

After reading about 'game', finding this forum etc...I approached a lot of girls (on FB, in clubs, in the streets a few times, in social events, online...) I got hundreds of rejections, a few flakes etc, but hey, I banged a several girls as well. Before this I only got my former gf.

So in retrospective I got "results", but the amount of effort I had to put was, and has been until this day too much, so everytime I find some dude with a pretty gf I get kind of envious and wonder if he had to put that much effort, or if he got her by chance, so this makes me feel like I am alone in this situation. It makes me think that every other guy gets his dream girl just because, except me LOL.
Besides, I wonder if the majority of guys I know have read about Game which I doubt.

So yeah, it gets frustrating and boring. It seems like and uphill battle most of the time.

Since I started reading about game, I tried to increase my muscle mass, I learnt how to dance, I became more social, approached more, read a ton about Pickup...etc etc..but not as many results as I'd wish.

I've had two breaks from picking up chicks cause I got fed up.

It seems other guys dont struggle to get chicks they like. Weird.

The most annoying thing about this is that if you do nothing, you get zero results, that's for sure. So I cant find a ...'solution' to this problem.

Good to see someone that can relate and one that has put in the effort. I give you respect for your effect.
I do know that the more you invest into something the more you will subconsciously going to want in return.
So even when the girl is interested in you and there are actually not much problems and it just takes some patience. You, because you invested so much wants more out of it.

And that's what i am thinking about just now. The more you invest the more you subconsciously expect to get back. The more you expect the more disappointed you'll get because you will never get back something that is remotely similar to the effort you put in.

I get it now, i should have never get involved with this nonsense, like you said. Those guys never read about game, they never invested so they will be okay with less and that's what creates attraction. Not doubting yourself that you have to go on forums to teach you how to get the girls. Just thinking about it now, it's sickening. If a quality girl ever found out she would dump your ass, i will however admit my mistake when that one comes along and tell her that when i realized this i quit.

Goodluck to you all.

 

[Peña]

I think your career is most important first to get to where you want to be. I would not give up on nothing. I would make an effort to go out with your friends and meet girls as much as you can. See the reason why you are losing these girls and fix the problem of that. Keep your skills and game sharp. Do not dwell on the negatives or what happened before because it will ruin your game. Fix what you did wrong and go from there. Good Luck Man.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

I think your career is most important first to get to where you want to be. I would not give up on nothing. I would make an effort to go out with your friends and meet girls as much as you can. See the reason why you are losing these girls and fix the problem of that. Keep your skills and game sharp. Do not dwell on the negatives or what happened before because it will ruin your game. Fix what you did wrong and go from there. Good Luck Man.

Thanks for your positive words bro, appreciated.

 

[Peña]

Thanks for your positive words bro, appreciated.

No problem. It is easy to give up or just stay stuck in the same mind set. There are plenty of girls to be had. All it takes is to fix what you did wrong and you are good to go.

 

[Infern0]

Yeah your problem is you aren't able to generate enough self esteem yet for this kind of thing to just be natural and instinctive.

Many of the guys with hot girlfriends likely didn't put "as much effort in" because at the end of the day true game doesn't require "putting effort in" because it means you are awesome and everyone wants to be around you.

It's like I always say, PUA stuff has a time limit, it will not keep a girl interested in definitely if you feel like a turd deep down

 

[Dgwizdal]

Do less. Majority of things learned here do not require constant effort as they should eventually mold into your personality and mentality.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

Do less. Majority of things learned here do not require constant effort as they should eventually mold into your personality and mentality.

Yeah your problem is you aren't able to generate enough self esteem yet for this kind of thing to just be natural and instinctive.

Many of the guys with hot girlfriends likely didn't put "as much effort in" because at the end of the day true game doesn't require "putting effort in" because it means you are awesome and everyone wants to be around you.

It's like I always say, PUA stuff has a time limit, it will not keep a girl interested in definitely if you feel like a turd deep down

You havent devalued women enough yet. That's nothing sinister, its just that why put someone on a pedestal who is capable of such cruelty? Respect yourself and they will respect you.

Great posts, thanks dudes. Fell into a pit just there, collection of very bad experiences got to me. It's alright decided to forget about it and start over.

 

[Huffman]

Just relax man. I've been on and off the game for some time. There was a post "let go and get back on that horse" which I liked some years ago.

But whenever it feels like a chore, just....... let it go.
Take a walk in the park, sit down on a bench and breathe the air. Feel free.

Always remember, you can't force happiness. Let it all go, and then come back and be natural. Hit your reset button.

Tip: travel to a foreign city.... sit on a bench in the city center. You will feel free, this is so far from your worries.... then talk to some stranger. It feels so right, so easy, so careless, so free.... that is the feeling I pursue.

In today's society, we have forgotten how to relax and be happy.