The Pedantical
Don Juan
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I have a pretty bad problem, which I've been fighting for the past few years, but it doesn't seem to get any better.
Basically, I've grown up with the sadded excuse for a man as a dad. He's the world champion in the AFC department, and lets his wife (my mom) control him and he's so afraid to contradict her or anger her that whenever she says something he just repeats it like a mechanical parrott. And my mom's some kind of paranoid psycho who gets really defensive whenever someone contradicts her and starts yelling and throwing stuff around if everything doesn't go 100% her way. Neither of them have any friends at all, there is zero contact with the rest of the family.
So then, now that I'm 23 and spent all my sad life secluded with them, I never learned how to talk to people. As any boy does, I always tried to mimick my dad, which creates such a pathetic and insecure atmosphere that I've been ridiculed at school and everywhere I happen to be. So from my dad, I got the totally unable to talk to people because I don't know what the hell to say thing.
From my mom, I learned how to be scared ****less of contradicting people and get in any conflict at all, because I grew up that whatever I said that was different from my mother's opinion was interpreted as a personal attack and I was yelled at and she would push my drawer on the floor and break everything and make me pick it all up.
So now, not only I unable to get over my fear of conflicts, but at the same time I have no idea what to say or how to act around people since no one ever showed me. Result? 23 years of age and yet to get a date, and a mother that keeps controlling every aspect of my life. Everything I do to get out of this predictament makes it worse, my mother tightens her grip on me, and my dad continues to fill my head with every single freaking example of what a man shouldn't do.
I've read a lot of stuff on this site, I've began to read some of C. Xuma's ebooks, and it seems that most of everything revolves around being a "man," which is exactly what I've been trained not to do since the day I was born. So I'm asking you guys... what the hell can I do now? I've got to get away from my parents, but I don't have any money and I never had a job in my life since my mom always kept me shut in, so I doubt I'd get hired anywhere, and I don't have any money for an appartment anywhere. I really got to do something, but now everything I've tried has fell flat... any advice? :kick:
Basically, I've grown up with the sadded excuse for a man as a dad. He's the world champion in the AFC department, and lets his wife (my mom) control him and he's so afraid to contradict her or anger her that whenever she says something he just repeats it like a mechanical parrott. And my mom's some kind of paranoid psycho who gets really defensive whenever someone contradicts her and starts yelling and throwing stuff around if everything doesn't go 100% her way. Neither of them have any friends at all, there is zero contact with the rest of the family.
So then, now that I'm 23 and spent all my sad life secluded with them, I never learned how to talk to people. As any boy does, I always tried to mimick my dad, which creates such a pathetic and insecure atmosphere that I've been ridiculed at school and everywhere I happen to be. So from my dad, I got the totally unable to talk to people because I don't know what the hell to say thing.
From my mom, I learned how to be scared ****less of contradicting people and get in any conflict at all, because I grew up that whatever I said that was different from my mother's opinion was interpreted as a personal attack and I was yelled at and she would push my drawer on the floor and break everything and make me pick it all up.
So now, not only I unable to get over my fear of conflicts, but at the same time I have no idea what to say or how to act around people since no one ever showed me. Result? 23 years of age and yet to get a date, and a mother that keeps controlling every aspect of my life. Everything I do to get out of this predictament makes it worse, my mother tightens her grip on me, and my dad continues to fill my head with every single freaking example of what a man shouldn't do.
I've read a lot of stuff on this site, I've began to read some of C. Xuma's ebooks, and it seems that most of everything revolves around being a "man," which is exactly what I've been trained not to do since the day I was born. So I'm asking you guys... what the hell can I do now? I've got to get away from my parents, but I don't have any money and I never had a job in my life since my mom always kept me shut in, so I doubt I'd get hired anywhere, and I don't have any money for an appartment anywhere. I really got to do something, but now everything I've tried has fell flat... any advice? :kick: