I'm an idiot

[LuisGarcia10]

Today I was swimming down at the local gym where there was a really hot girl, 8/10 I would say. I'd been looking at her quite a bit but didn't think she'd noticed me really as she was dead into her swimming and seemed pretty focussed. Anyway, I stopped for a rest at one point and looked round and noticed she'd been looking at me, established eye contact and instead of instantly looking away like most people do when you catch them looking at you, she smiled and held the eye contact. I just totally froze and gave her a kind of nervous smile back and then didn't really make eye contact again, I even bumped into her by the shower bit where you clean off after your swim and she was desperately trying to establish eye contact but I was just too nervous to do it. She probably thought I wasn't interested at all, that's definately what I'd think if a girl did that to me.

To say I'm annoyed with myself is an understatement, all hope is not lost, however, as she was a pretty good swimmer and looked very keen etc, so the chances are she's a regular at this swimming pool and I'll get the chance to see her again and make a mends.

What I'm after is one or two tips to avoid letting this happen again? I'm a pretty confident person normally so conversation with strangers isn't a problem and I have no problem talking to good looking women, it's all most as if the nervousness hit me when I realised she liked me? Is this a common problem for other people on here?

And before anyone says it I'm aware that not every girl that smiles at you fancies you but I could tell she definately liked me. I also have read the bible on here and taken a lot of it in but this is still an area I struggle in so any help would be appreciated.

Cheers.

 

[horaholic]

There's no secret here. Its all about mustering up the sack, to go say hi. A really great opening line would have been "is this shower taken?" Of course, you better have good inner game if you want to pull that off.

I suggest spending more time there, and the same time. She might be back.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Annoyingly I tend to work at the time I was there today, I've got tonight off so I went down later than normal, but on all other days I'll be at work at the time I was at the gym which is a pain.

I guess all I can do is keep going back and hope I see her again, I mean I'm not dwelling on it because the chances are if she liked the look of me then other girls will as well, I'm off out tonight so maybe I can make up for it.

Just annoying and it's a problem that's been troubling me most of my life.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

^^^ Not trying to be annoying and clog up the board but I could do with one or two more opinions on this, I won't bump it at any point again as I know it can be annoying.