Im an AFC...Need help

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Im new to this site, its excellent btw. Anyways, im a junior in HS. Right now I've got two choices, one girl who im interested in and im 200% sre she likes me (she told me for christs sake), and one girl who i small talked with once with after school who i think is really good looking 7-8 maybe...So im on the bus and the first girl who likes me comes and sits next to me, like a phuckin dumass i freakin dont say anythin interesting or funny, just bullcrap. I know i like her but im hesitant cause she's like a well known person in school but im just a guy with nothing to do on a friday night, and i dont speak to any of her friends, so if i tried anything with her and went steady she'd just get bored with me...man i sucK. The other girl as i said is cute, she always smiles at me in the hall when she sees me, and her eyes just have this interested look. I want to start a convo with her but im not sure how to start one with her. I was thinking about the one line i read somewhere here since her smile is really white..."You have a really nice smile, you sure your teeth aren't fake?" Any good? Yea I dont know what to do because I think whatever girl I pursue, she will be bored of me because of my pathetic life. And Im literally better looking than a majority of guys in my class, girls will rate me anywhere from an 8-9 ALWAYS. Im just the "good looking guy with NO game".

man being shy really sux

 

[Asteconn]

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[jeffthechef]

you probably don't have good conversations because you're nervous...you may deny it all you want..but i'm pretty damn sure you're nervous

perhaps you should ask her to hang this weekend...if she says no..\she's not interested..says yes she is interested...this will lead to better conversations because now you know she's interested..and there's no way to screw up unless you're a complete ass....if you already know she's interested..what's the problem

 

[Chrom3y]

the problem is her friends...how can something work out if I don't even socialize with her friends??

btw im the original poster, i made a new account...wrong user name

 

[jeffthechef]

heh
i'm 99.9999999% sure this girl is interested in me..the thing is she's about at the top of the popularity ladder and i'm not..i only talk with a couple of her friends...mainly the guy ones

so how da **** will this work?...the same as it would every other relationship
it's not that hard..you see her friend with her..say hi to her too..just talk to them too when they're around..

 

[More Cowbell Please]

freakin dont say anythin interesting or funny, just bullcrap.

Hey, that's better than nothing. In fact, it's good to know how to make up bs sometimes. It's usually better to get some attention rather than none at all. As for starting conversations, you can say almost anything. The line about the teeth, is actually a line I have said in the past. I guess someone also had that original thought along the way. Small world.

Either way, you can just make up stories to talk about. Maybe use some half-truths, which usually make the best stories anyway. You can come up with something crazy. A lot of women like this. For example, since you were not acting very enthusiastic with the girl you were sitting next to, you can tell her the next time you see her that you had your mind on something very important and that it was consuming your thoughts. Don't apologize for not being enthusiastic, just tell her. She will probably ask you what it was. Think up something. Put yourself in a scenario, but you can start off vague.

Say something like there is a new developing situation in my life that may determine if I make a break for something so wonderful(use whatever adjectives you want) to me that I may not be the same person, but I think I will be much better off. She will want to know what it is. Then tell her that you don't think you can trust anyone with this information right now and you are still forming a plan and waiting on the situation to develop more. She will be intrigued and may beg you for an answer. You will not give her one, so maybe you tell her how funny it is in today's society that people cannot trust each other. Even close friends will betray each other. And think of a real story in your life where this has happened. You can embellish it as much as you want to make it sound more interesting.

And just go on and on. I did this a lot in high school to intrigue girls and still do it to this day to women I am hanging around with with some time to burn. You would be surprised how well this works. Try to be as sly as a fox and bounce around so she never gets a hold of the story enough to ever to be able to prove anything. Sound as vague and interesting as possible. This is just something you can learn to do until you have enough impressive things in your life to talk about. And even then you will be a good enough story teller to make anything you do in life sound impressive. There is a lot more you can do to make a conversation interesting, but this can get the wheels spinning. I hope you do well.

 

[Chrom3y]

Either way, you can just make up stories to talk about. Maybe use some half-truths, which usually make the best stories anyway. You can come up with something crazy. A lot of women like this. For example, since you were not acting very enthusiastic with the girl you were sitting next to, you can tell her the next time you see her that you had your mind on something very important and that it was consuming your thoughts. Don't apologize for not being enthusiastic, just tell her. She will probably ask you what it was. Think up something. Put yourself in a scenario, but you can start off vague.

Say something like there is a new developing situation in my life that may determine if I make a break for something so wonderful(use whatever adjectives you want) to me that I may not be the same person, but I think I will be much better off. She will want to know what it is. Then tell her that you don't think you can trust anyone with this information right now and you are still forming a plan and waiting on the situation to develop more. She will be intrigued and may beg you for an answer. You will not give her one, so maybe you tell her how funny it is in today's society that people cannot trust each other. Even close friends will betray each other. And think of a real story in your life where this has happened. You can embellish it as much as you want to make it sound more interesting.

And just go on and on. I did this a lot in high school to intrigue girls and still do it to this day to women I am hanging around with with some time to burn. You would be surprised how well this works. Try to be as sly as a fox and bounce around so she never gets a hold of the story enough to ever to be able to prove anything. Sound as vague and interesting as possible. This is just something you can learn to do until you have enough impressive things in your life to talk about. And even then you will be a good enough story teller to make anything you do in life sound impressive. There is a lot more you can do to make a conversation interesting, but this can get the wheels spinning. I hope you do well.

Thanks MCP, I might have to word it differently but, I like it

 

[Crazy Asian]

man, i'd rather be in ur shoes for sure.
girls usually would rate me a 5-6.

with your good looks, girls ASSUME that you have a life, are interesting, are higher value, and have many other girls wanting you.

so the attraction for you is already done, and you just need to calm ur nuts off and maintain your frame.

frame = non reactive and you do what you want to do w/o being affected by others.

you basically have two paths to take.
one is to memorize a bunch of lines. (i've tried this, it worked, but it fvcks with your head, and you start pushing people away. it also lowers your REAL confidence since you are putting up a front that isn't really you)
the other is to adopt a new mindset.

u don't need the lines and tactics because those are for attracting women, and you already have that down.
what you need is to open up and be more social.
start talking to EVERYONE you meet.
find humor in everything.
be motivated in some way.
and have a deep love for women.
don't treat women like they are below you (as some guys on this site might suggest).
just treat them like actual people and be interesting.
hmmm, good idea you say?
"If i am INTERESTING, then maybe girls will be INTERESTED" <---omg epiphany!

lol
just go read the "conversation" part of the bible.
apply it everyday.
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