"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm an AFC again..

Dayum itz jee

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Well ... Something happened.. And i became a AFC again.. I dont know where to start as a DJ..again.. learning to be a DJ the second time is so much harder than the first ... any advice..?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CraigMack

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You know I heard an interesting podcast on this. The author was talking about the reasons why you revert back to a AFC. Supreme said it's because you are only putting on a mask instead of becoming.

He ment that you have to become a DJ instead of act out a frame. It has to be engrained down to your cellular level.

If I can recall the link to that podcast I will post it for you.

Craig,
 

Dayum itz jee

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Aww man.. At one point of my life i actually felt like a DJ.. Never knew it was a mask..
 
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