I'm a secret to all her friends/family.

[AverageFC]

if you havent met her friends and family, youre not her real boyfriend.

 

[MindOverMatter]

look, even if a girl has strict parents, she will still introduce you to her friends.

the fact NO ONE knows about you, and that she is asking you to keep it to yourself either means:

a.) she's ashamed of you
b.) she has a bf.

just be cool with her, ask her to be straight with you. tell her you wont be mad but would like her to be honest.

 

[MacDiddy]

If her parents are extremely religious then they would oppose inter-racial dating...or even different religions. Let's say she's Jewish and the guy is Catholic or Protestant. Mommy and Daddy are going to want her to find a nice Jewish boy.

Wyldfire.... O ye of little faith.... when you illustrate the extreme scenario, then of course there is going to be some on the fringes of these religions that are going to object, but now a days, the moderates are the majority. They're going to get upset if one of their little princesses goes off and marry's an alien but thats about it.....


Keeper: Firstly, I wouldn't even bother about your status... Secondly, it is you that should be controlling the tempo of this relationship, not her! Since she's young, I put it down to her immaturity with the relationship stuff.. For whatever reason, enjoy this score!!! Being "official" is not up to her, its up the Commander in Chief (thats you DJs!!!)

 

[DrSoSuave]

Let's just put this aside:

Woman value relationships big time more so than men. When a woman includes you to her activities with her friends or family she is very interested in being your girlfriend.

She could be paranoid, like some people but normal people who aren't ashamed of being attached to someone will hint to friends/family or show up in glimpses that they are attached.

I'm not going to repeat what others have said and they're along the lines of:

She could be ashamed of you.

or

She has someone else in the picture.

I just know that when a woman really likes her man, she will invest in her man as in trying to spend time with him or including him as much as possible with family/friends.

 

[Keeper]

But if she was ashamed of me... why would we still be together dude?

I can say it's a cool relationship. We both have alot of fun. Ehh... No... she's not ashamed of me. She just doesn't want her family to know. And that's what I want to know: why.

True... it could be because she's already intoduced another boyfriend to her parents. And she's afraid of what others might think if they knew she also had me. Though that would be highly doubtful as I know her sister . (She's one other person who knows about us. Also quiet about the thing.) And her sis says she's got no other boyfriends.

Ehhh... whatever.

 

[MacDiddy]

Ehhh... whatever.

See... now thats the attitude to have!!!