I'm a player...only with chicks that I dont want.

[st_99]

New member this place rocks.. So I need some advice on the following...

When I'm hanging with just friends that are girls, usually my boys girlfriends or just random fat chicks or whatever I can spit game like a master. I tease, I'm witty, funny, sexual and I can keep it going all night and I know for a fact that they love it and are intrigued be me. They all love me. I am doing it strictly as teasing, I know I will never be with any of these girls because I dont want to. Thats all fine and dandy but these are girls that I have 0 interest in.

I just flat out cannot transfer this behaviour to women that I AM interested in. I just completely suck and become a complete boring loser when it comes to conversation with someone I want. Its night and day. I just completely lose who I am in front of hotties. I always tell myself just pretend you have no interest and she is just a friend but of course that never works..

So how the hell do I change this, I know I can be smooth as hell but how do I do with babes that I want! Basically I just become too concerened with saying something stupid so I just say boring run of the mill ****..damn.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

What really helped me out in that department was whenever I caught myself treating a hot girl good I thought to myself "what would I do if she was ugly and fat?" and go with that.

Basically whatever jokes and stuff you would do with the ugly girls, just do it with the hot ones. And if a hot girl calls you but you're busy, don't drop what you're doing to talk to her, tell her you're busy and you'll call back.

It really starts with the basics like that.

 

[donjuan87]

I know exactly what you mean, the same thing happens to me. The reason you are so good around girls you don't want is because you aren't afraid of screwing it up, so you are relaxed, funny, and witty. But around girls you have an interest in, you are nervous even if you don't feel like you are.

Here's what helps me: All girls have features that are less desirable that the others (i.e. a big nose or something like that), and what you need to do is focus on that and, like the poster before me said, think of her as if she was ugly and fat.

Works like a charm!

 

[Dante3214]

That is fantastic advice!

Can't wait to try that out .

 

[Badmannaz]

Here's what helps me: All girls have features that are less desirable that the others (i.e. a big nose or something like that), and what you need to do is focus on that and, like the poster before me said, think of her as if she was ugly and fat.

Works like a charm!

OMG this is exactly what i was thinking of after i read the thread starter's post and this guy said it be4 i could...i've never ran across a girl who didn't have some klinda flaw on her i totally couldn't take my attention off of and believe you me she knows about the flaw...use that to make her inferior and you superior....hot girls need to feel as if they have no control and your better than her i've seen ugly dudes get chicks like this... it's a way of controlling her self -esteem with the single word from your mouth...and that my friend is a don juan-----aka-------a player

 

[Luscious]

You have no pressure when your friends and non-attractive chicks are around. You don't care and you're just letting it flow.

The reason you're locking up with girls you actually like is that you're overanalyzing and putting too much pressure on yourself. Treat it like any other conversation and let yourself shine.

 

[DonJuanForever]

Okay....stop, hold on.

With chicks you are unattracted to you neg hit all the time and make fun of, understandable.
Chicks you are attracted to you are nervous and not so ****y around, your question is, how do you be more ****y around them?

DON'T LUST AFTER THEM.

The key to being very comfortable and ****y around women, is when you don't want anything from them(reason why you can be so ****y and comfortable around the ugly chicks)....when you want something from her, (like sex) you tend to get more romantic and shyt, which is fine, only after the bytch is on your dyck about fvckin her.

DON'T LUST AFTER THEM, the result, you will treat her as one of your boys.

Still be sexual around them though, because if you do the ****y part without the sexual part they will see you as a friend. Doing them both they will see you as some type of "cool" guy, and now, let her see other women are attracted to you and she will be allll over you.

 

[st_99]

Yeah, you're right...I GOTA STOP LUSTING AND GETTING ALL GOGOO GAGAA OVER THESE BABES..

Sad thing is even if I know they have some interest I still cant relax and be myself cuz again I just forget how to act. FEAR is my enemy.

I think it might come down to not being confortable with who I am. I always feel the need to be perfect. I need to realize thats not possible nor is it required to land HB's. It might sound cheesy but I think I just need to keep telling myself that I'm the man and any chick would be privelaged to be with me and stop acting like I'm inferior. Its like I tell myself, "oh, I have nothing to offer this girl..blah blah blah" I'm such an ass..need to stop being so negative.

 

[brucevangeorge]

It's probably cause your're really fat, ugly, or skinny.

Either that or you're scared of the hot chicks thinking they are more different than the fat ones. When in reality, they're not.... except for the weight difference.

 

[st_99]

It's probably cause your're really fat, ugly, or skinny.

Either that or you're scared of the hot chicks thinking they are more different than the fat ones. When in reality, they're not.... except for the weight difference.

Nah, I'm really not fat ugly or skinny..

Like I said, I think I just feel the need to be perfect. Say and do all the right things...stuff like that.

 

[vp171s]

Nah, I'm really not fat ugly or skinny..

Like I said, I think I just feel the need to be perfect. Say and do all the right things...stuff like that.

our parents brought us up right, too bad we can't be appriciated without a deception