neonlimited
Don Juan
ive read everything on this site and everything about it... but i still have done NOTHING on my own...no approaching.. etc
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
im a failure
- Thread starter neonlimited
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Small steps...in time itll happen, you just have to be patient. Rome wasnt built in a day.Originally posted by neonlimited
ive read everything on this site and everything about it... but i still have done NOTHING on my own...no approaching.. etc
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
your not a failure, if you haven't tried. your just a procrastinator.
why aren't you trying things out?
why aren't you trying things out?
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Re: Re: im a failure
Right on. Experience is the only thing that will make things on this web site truly help you. Watch the movie "What about Bob?" and remember"baby steps."Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Small steps...in time itll happen, you just have to be patient. Rome wasnt built in a day.
eggnawgkid
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Your whole attitude is wrong right there. You need to convince yourself that you are NOT a failure before you try to get out there. Otherwise you will be planning on failing and end up doing so. [insert inspirational quote here]. Plan on succeeding and it will increase your chances.im a failure
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
assassin
Don Juan
that sucks man. i'm a pimp!
do you want to get anywhere with chicks. how bad do you want it. your effort will show it.
do you want to get anywhere with chicks. how bad do you want it. your effort will show it.
Forget the past, look into the present and the future, and START applying your skillz
Laterz...
Its never too late to start man... But when u start, you will just get better and better at it, and it will become easiyer and easiyer for you..... Its the STARTING to do it which is the hardest part, but you need to pull yourself togeather and just do it, u dont live forever, and you sure as hell dont stay YOUNG forever, so stop wasting time, and get out there and START PIMPING!Originally posted by neonlimited
ive read everything on this site and everything about it... but i still have done NOTHING on my own...no approaching.. etc
Laterz...
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
Good point there, all AFCs and people like yourself have delusions about being failures. Please! You are no such thing, failing requires a chance of success, and there isn't any if you just sit on your ass.
Real failure is something you have to go out and accomplish, and to do it on such a scale that you can truely call yourself a failure is quite an achievement. You might want to kill yourself should that ever happen though.
Nope, you're not a failure. You're just a success waiting to happen. How long you wait is up to you, but try and get your thumb out before you die.
"Try and get your thumb out before you die"- man I'm clever...
Real failure is something you have to go out and accomplish, and to do it on such a scale that you can truely call yourself a failure is quite an achievement. You might want to kill yourself should that ever happen though.
Nope, you're not a failure. You're just a success waiting to happen. How long you wait is up to you, but try and get your thumb out before you die.
"Try and get your thumb out before you die"- man I'm clever...
Live
Don Juan
Alright, heres my two cents. In highschool, or I should say people you go to highschool with, are much harder to approach and mac on because of one word... reputation. Every single person in highschool has some form of reputation. No matter if its geek, or football star nobody wants their reputation to get worse. Failing with a girl at your highschool hurts your reputation because it will get around. This alone stops many highschool guys from going after girls from their school. There are guys who do bypass this, but that is another post at another time.
My recommendation, go out try and spark up a conversation in a place where you feel comfortable away from your school and people you know. Reputation only holds you down, get away from it. Start with people you know you will never see again, and just do your best man. That way you will honestly be able to tell yourself you did your best on that given day and that youll go back out and try again later. Your reputation won't be affected either.
Cheers to livin your life.
My recommendation, go out try and spark up a conversation in a place where you feel comfortable away from your school and people you know. Reputation only holds you down, get away from it. Start with people you know you will never see again, and just do your best man. That way you will honestly be able to tell yourself you did your best on that given day and that youll go back out and try again later. Your reputation won't be affected either.
Cheers to livin your life.