You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Raw will take even more time to eat. It is not even healthy to eat raw cauliflower. It has some ingredients which should not be eaten raw (too lazy to find what it is, google about it)HalfAddict said:Eat raw. This is what I have been doing, raw peapods, carrots, tons of spinach, cauliflower and broccoli. I cook my sweet potatos though.
Cauliflower and Brocolli will get soft upon heating so it is easy to eat them. The usual culprits are beetroot, cabbage, beans, radish and radish-like veggies. Beans are difficult to eat not because they are filling (seeds may be, but I eat the whole beans with their cage on) but because they are so full of hard fiber difficult to chew.ArcBound said:just buy a 1lb bag of frozen mixed veggies like the one Espi posted and take out a bunch and microwave for like 2 minutes and I can eat it in like 3 minutes....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ArcBound said:How much veggies are you eating?? I just buy a 1lb bag of frozen mixed veggies like the one Espi posted and take out a bunch and microwave for like 2 minutes and I can eat it in like 3 minutes...
Do you hate the taste or something? If so get a veggie that you like eating..
Edit: Just saw that you eat beans. Beans are extremely filling as far as vegetables go, maybe that's why you eat them slowly.
+1limerickdesign said:I would do research on microwaves before you use them. The russians did studies on microwaves and from their discoveries promptly banned it from their country.
from what ive researched foods healing properties get warped and changed in a microwave. Just figure i would mention it would hate for you to put up with veggies (assuming you have a distaste of veggies like i do) and for them not to be as healing.
All cooking does. That is the point. You'll have to be more specific.The Bad Ass Canadian said:I never use microwaves. They do change the food on a molecular level.
They change the food in ways that our bodies don't necessarily recognize, which when the food enters the gut it can have an immune response and cause longterm health effects.mrRuckus said:All cooking does. That is the point. You'll have to be more specific.
All types of radiation have it's risks. They found recently a computer with Wifi can damage 25% of your sperm if you use it for only 4 hours.limerickdesign said:I would do research on microwaves before you use them. The russians did studies on microwaves and from their discoveries promptly banned it from their country.
from what ive researched foods healing properties get warped and changed in a microwave. Just figure i would mention it would hate for you to put up with veggies (assuming you have a distaste of veggies like i do) and for them not to be as healing.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.