I'm 40, haven't done much dating, barely had a relationship

[CasanovaFrankenstein]

I'm 40 and have had one relationship that lasted maybe 2-3 months. The truth is, I've always just felt I was a loser and no attractive woman would want me, so why bother trying to meet anyone? That's the truth, but hearing that would cause my value in the eyes of probably 98% of attractive women to plummet in seconds. Any other guys around my age had this come up, women asking about your past dating life, past relationships, wanting to know how experienced you are? I assume you can only change the subject so many times before she starts wondering what you're hiding. How did you handle it? Thanks?

 

[Tictac]

I'm 60+ and was married for almost 25 years, rejoining the single life about 5 years back.

Learn '****y & funny' to respond to such questions.

At 40, on-line dating may be a better bet for you. Just know that it's a numbers game.

 

[MOTU]

So I have the opposite problem, I have been married 2x, 16yrs and 6yrs with only 15months in between. Divorced now for 13mos. This scares she sh!t out of some women. So I have learned to play it off, be vague, change the subject. The chick I went out with Thursday said "you are kind of a mystery. Most guys just out it all out there about themselves but you don't say much. Are you hiding something?". I said "yes, my real name is Austin Powers, and I am an international man of mystery, have you seen my midget?" and then laughed and told her it was her turn at shuffleboard.

Every woman I have dated has made a similar comment about me being "mysterious" or "hard to figure out". I think it is good food for their hampster.

So learn C&F and rehearse some verbal dance steps and lines on the subject "yea my last girlfriend went back to modeling in Milan. How's your steak cooked?".

 

[CasanovaFrankenstein]

okay that helps, thanks everyone.

 

[Jules_Winfield]

PUT YOURSELF FIRST! Yes, I was yelling.