Im 25 and Single

[frivolousz21]

didnt think day would ever come.

considering I have a 16 month old son...

however the X-fiance and I couldnt work it out...I was miserable..and gave her no affection and she left. I will be in the courts soon to get some custody.

anyways...its going to be different being single.

however I can say some things ive learned from living with a woman.

1. woman cant make you happy..they can add to your happiness.

2. they have no effect on your self esteem only you do

3. you can put a square peg in a round hole...if your not compatible get out


I am excited to be able to go out and meet a new woman someday that I can share my life and things I love with...I didnt have this before.

after being with her I really dont care anymore about rejection, being nervous or any of that petty shyt I held onto when I was younger..its balls to the wall with women now.

 

[thefonz]

Hey good to hear from you again friv

Sorry to hear about that, I'm sure you'll have no problem getting new women

 

[frivolousz21]

dating today will be 1000 times easier then it was then...because of experience.

and the fact that Ive realized I do not need to be in a relationship to be happy

 

[Interceptor]

Good luck, friv.

Mke damn sure you reread the Book of Pook.

You may also want to look into some of Dr. Paul Dobransky's stuff.

Enjoy, love, and appreciate women, dont use them as a means to get out your anger, resentment ,and aggravations.

just sayin', that's all.....



We're here for ya, man.

 

[Charm]

friv,

Start focussing on what you want, not what you are as of today. Example: I am an amazing catch and in a relationship with a woman who cares for me and that I enjoy having, I am a great lover, friend, partner and person to be with. I feel good with a woman who values my best qualities and who helps me improve in areas where I can use improvements in my life. This is the kind of woman I want within 2 months.

 

[frivolousz21]

thanks for the advice guys.

Its going to be a fun journey the next few years.

first and foremost I have to get things settled for my son.

then I plan on giving myself a better life..and enjoying a good woman like you said...

it feels good to know that I am in control of that...not the other way around

 

[Charm]

Frivolousz,

In regards to what you are saying:

Plan on giving yourself a better life starting right this moment. Ask for a better life starting today and by asking, you have begun the process immediately. Start right Now. Say "I want a better life for me and my son starting today, and by better I mean: ________________________" and fill in the blanks. Then WRITE DOWN exactly that same statement. After that, put a line beneath it and start a new list of Things I am Grateful For.

1.) I am grateful that I can see my son's smile every day
2.) I am grateful for being able to be a father who loves his child and who is loved by him.
3.) I am grateful for being strong and supportive and for knowing that I can make a life for my child and a woman in our future who will help me and him become the best people we can.

By starting this process, you begin making yourself a better life instantly. And remember, a better life you have, the better the life of your child. Your children share in your abundance.

 

[Desdinova]

Hey, welcome back!

Too bad that it didn't work out, but you're becoming stronger and wiser with experience! It's good you're still learning, and want to keep learning

 

[Ever onward]

Hey friv,

Sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe after you've had some time to recover we can start a bootcamp again.

 

[STR8UP]

Please, PLEASE correct me if I'm wrong, and this isn't a flame, but weren't you the guy who was super optimistic about relationships back in the day?

Hey, we all live and learn.......

 

[ketostix]

Please, PLEASE correct me if I'm wrong, and this isn't a flame, but weren't you the guy who was super optimistic about relationships back in the day?

Hey, we all live and learn.......

I'm not flaming either but that's my recollection too, and Friv wouldn't listen to any of us "pessimist". Maybe he sees where we're coming from now.

 

[Centaurion]

Please, PLEASE correct me if I'm wrong, and this isn't a flame, but weren't you the guy who was super optimistic about relationships back in the day?

:crackup:

 

[frivolousz21]

"guilty"

hangs head in shame

 

[STR8UP]

Well, you're at that turning point. 25 is a good age cause even if you weren't getting out of a relationship, you would be passing into a different stage in your life.

Things don't really heat up until you're 30, but this is the beginning of the Mature Man stage (as defined by Sosuave anyway, hehe). Time to regroup and get your sh!t together for the good times that lie ahead.

 

[Latinoman]

Well, you're at that turning point. 25 is a good age cause even if you weren't getting out of a relationship, you would be passing into a different stage in your life.

Things don't really heat up until you're 30, but this is the beginning of the Mature Man stage (as defined by Sosuave anyway, hehe). Time to regroup and get your sh!t together for the good times that lie ahead.

He has a 1.5 years old child. Kind of a HUGE difference between being 25 and without children and being 25 with a child.

 

[WestCoaster]

Agree with Latinoman, and I had no faith in this relationship from the start, not because of the kid but because Friv kept talking about hitting it with other gals, clubbing, getting his groove on and so forth (while is gf was pregnant) ... when a kid comes the dynamics change.

It appeared that the kid and the relationship with his mother were lower priorities than being a smooth DJ, I could be way off here, just remembering what I read. Obviously that's changed.

Then again on a message board for DJ's most people are trying to impress others with their stories and their "game" even if being responsible might be a higher priority.

 

[frivolousz21]

Agree with Latinoman, and I had no faith in this relationship from the start, not because of the kid but because Friv kept talking about hitting it with other gals, clubbing, getting his groove on and so forth (while is gf was pregnant) ... when a kid comes the dynamics change.

It appeared that the kid and the relationship with his mother were lower priorities than being a smooth DJ, I could be way off here, just remembering what I read. Obviously that's changed.

Then again on a message board for DJ's most people are trying to impress others with their stories and their "game" even if being responsible might be a higher priority.

my son has been and always will be my number 1 priority.

1. she wasnt..which wasnt good for the relationship.
2. of course id be posting about missing the life on a place like this.

my lack of emtional attachment to her made that happen.

 

[Latinoman]

Agree with Latinoman, and I had no faith in this relationship from the start, not because of the kid but because Friv kept talking about hitting it with other gals, clubbing, getting his groove on and so forth (while is gf was pregnant) ... when a kid comes the dynamics change.

It appeared that the kid and the relationship with his mother were lower priorities than being a smooth DJ, I could be way off here, just remembering what I read. Obviously that's changed.

Then again on a message board for DJ's most people are trying to impress others with their stories and their "game" even if being responsible might be a higher priority.

EXACTLY!

DJism should be applied in all aspects of our lives. Our careers, our relationships, our children, our friends. The problem a lot of them have in this board is that they associate “DJism” with “gaming women”. And that is the biggest mistake they make.

If I am not mistaking, Frivolous was one of the people asking or trying to fight “oneitis” with his LTR (and the pregnant future mother of his child). When in reality, there is NOTHING wrong with having a healthy monogamous relationship. Being a DJ is about having control over our lives. Most of the men in here have NO control over their lives as women tend to be the ones that define these men’s lives.

 

[WestCoaster]

my son has been and always will be my number 1 priority.

I never, ever got the feeling that was true from your previous posts. I'm glad he is now. Being a supreme player was the message of your earlier posts, the kid appeared to be an after thought. He probably wasn't, but that was what was conveyed.

 

[joekerr31]

Please, PLEASE correct me if I'm wrong, and this isn't a flame, but weren't you the guy who was super optimistic about relationships back in the day?

Hey, we all live and learn.......

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=88939&highlight=frivolousz21

kind of makes me wish wyldfire was still around.